We have known each other over 2yrs. Im 35 he is 27.
He pursued me, we started meeting for coffees/dates and after a month we were intimate. Thjngs were great, he was attentive - we met most days until a few months in when we sat and had a serious convo- he liked us as a couple but didnt want to be serious - his reasons were that i am a few years older than him and i already had a kid in my country etc- i agreed that i also didnt want to be serious and we continued as we were. We argued a month later and then started meeting for coffees again. It was more casual and cold and i know he had told his friends we were in a relationship but not seriously. We still went places always.
I had met with male friends (just friends) and granted i didn't tell him..His friend saw me and told him.. we went for lunch and he confronted me, i asked if he was jealous - he said no, he was annoyed I hadn't told him and he had to hear it from a friend. Said that we should stop being intimate and that he wasnt around to 'block my life'
We still met up and went shopping and kissed time to time and then he moved to the UK. We said goodbye and he sometimes sends me old pics of us.
He has never said he loves me, has always said he wants to see me happy and he is sorry that i wasnt his type for marriage- we have always helped each other (even until now) ... he sends me old pics of us and calls me once a week, yet acts like a friend and makes jokes about the men commenting on my pics. Was he falling for me and jealous? Did i ruin it? He has never been malicious or unkind.
I also know he himself had female friends. We always agreed we would be open with each other if someone else was involved but i was legitimately meeting with a work colleage for lunch and a friend from my home country. We dont speak everyday and I never tell him if I meet friends.. I admit i denied it at first but when i call he answers and meets me and takes out in his car if i ask.