Why is it so hard for a young man to get casual sex?

It's becoming increasingly apparent to females that young man have nothing to offer. They don't have a decent job they couldn't support a baby if they made one.


And their health risks they've slept around and the women know that.   Women are wising up to the fact that they can get somebody a little bit older that's grown up and has a job and takes better care of their body.



Why should they take the risk when they can get something better.

Well, it's easier now than it's ever been (with the possible exception of someone actually attending Woodstock). But if a young man is heterosexual it means he wants to have sex with women and the sex act is far more perilous for women than it is for men. You can choose to not use a condom then walk away and never look back. For a woman it's not only hoping the guy is patient enough that she isn't injured but then worrying about pregnancy and the far higher risk she's just taken in potentially getting an STD. Sex is just different for women, far more risky and it requires a lot more trust in a partner. Being physically bigger and being the penetrator is just a whole lot easier and less fraught than being physically smaller and prone to all kinds of dangerous repercussions from sleeping around. 

It's worse when you are bald and you have to settle for shagging fat needy woman who never shut the hell up

It is not hard if you are good looking, every woman wants to nail you, married or not...

Because lots of us women are picky. The ones who have standards and self respect are anyways they just dont give up to anyone.

You believe you're entitled to it.

What's going on in YOUR life?  Assuming you are posting about yourself, you would need to provide some details, your age, background, history, etc. THEN, we might be able to answer you.  My sense is that it isn't "so hard" for others, so the question is really...why you?

because of covid

Without love, sex means nothing. 

Because it goes against God.

Are you sending women “Surprise Penis” pics?? If yes, then that could be the problem 

Lack of confidence and experience.

Because a lot of women want more than that and a lot of them end up with someone older than them 

women don't like desperate guys, unless she is a dirty bimbo.

Because women can and should be picky.

because women have such high standards. the metoo movement makes it impossible for men to even desire to approach women. because women only value looks money and status; ie rich people or men they call daddy with their tongues to the floor. because women don't give nice guys a chance (genuine nice guys not the nice guy syndrome) women choose disgusting men who actively destroy them and then it's apparently okay to generalise all men as disgusting pigs; but we can't generalise women. double standards. because women are impossible to maintain, they offer nothing but expect everything. because women are held up high in the clouds and can do no ******* wrong but apparently it's a mans fault for everything he does or what happens in a relationship or during sex. because they have too high sex drives and the men don't do it enough for them. because they can't keep them excited long enough. because they get bored quickly. because they prefer to use men for an ego boost. because because because i can go on and on and on all day

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It's difficult because there is a disparity between the supply of wanted sex by men and the demand of sex from women. You can of course eliminate that difficulty by hanging out with women who like to have a lot of casual sex.

Cause that's the only thing that you are focused on , instead of looking for someone to be with your just in for lust. I also like that you believe sex is causal like it's drinking a damn cup of coffee.

Short answer: because most women aren't interested in merely "casual sex".  If they are going to give a guy sex, it can't be merely "casual". The guy needs to be a possible life partner and a carrier of what appear to be good genes.

This is not some flaw or fault in women; Mother Nature decreed this, because the risks of pregnancy are so great, and because you need a partner to help you raise your offspring.

So, while the woman doesn't have to be in love with the guy, he needs to be someone she thinks is worth ******* and from whom the kids might get decent DNA. AND after that, he needs to be  a guy she wants to continue ******* and who, she thinks, will be a reliable, trustworthy, partner if children come along.

Fr fr im glad i have a uterus

From a girl?  Because females are not males.
Women look for love, bonding and commitment with the same intensity and enthusiasm that men look for sex.

There is a old saying:
Men fall in love with women who attracted them,
Women are attracted to men they have fallen in love with (and for a woman, that usually means a relationship and bonding)

You Must be  " looking"  in  the Wrong  Places

Because women are in love with money not men. I noticed personal when I had a job I had a few ladies wanting me but after we did the days after they only contacted with money problems and if I say I didn't have it or their reasons are shady they quit seeing me. I only don't work but a little when I was younger because I'm handicapped with mild cerebral palsy, and trust me my disability wasn't no issue for them when it came to sex. LOL I found out real fast that if you flash money there's a number of ladies willing to spread their legs but if don't most won't even talk to you.  

casual sex is not normal. there's no substitute for genuine intimacy

#MeToo and American feminism. The ‘60s, hippies and “free love” are over. Unfortunately. Those were the good all days. Also if you don’t live in a big cosmopolitan city like New York it’s harder. In an environment like that there are generally more women who are willing to have casual sex with no strings attached and won’t go blabbing about it to all their friends and waiting for a wedding ring, and  you don’t necessarily have to play as many relationship games if you just want the “casual sex” you refer to. Also you don’t have to be particularly “macho”....you can even go around carrying a gay-looking shoulder bag and be “metrosexual” and you will still be able to get laid by a lot of very attractive and classy New York women. Or at least that’s the way it used to be. Again, things may have changed since I was there. But when I lived there you didn’t have to have a lot of money even, New York women would usually be more than happy to pick up the tab if they liked you and you were decently sensual and okay in bed. a it was a totally different scene than rural redneck America. Yeah, New York women were not into the musclebound jock thing anyway. That didn’t turn most of them on.They would go for brains and depth. Although I haven’t lived in New York for a while and I don’t know if it’s the way it used to be..there definitely WAS a good reason that the series called “Sex and the City” was shot in New York City as opposed to Oshkosh, let’s say. Good luck. 

It’s not, unless you are extremely unattractive. There are plenty of nasty wh*res in every town/city across America .

because you need to have level 70 in CoD to get a girl

Because you are disrespectful to women.  No woman in her right mind would agree to have sex with a cunnt like YOU!  

Its not
Never has been

Because what they say they want and really go for do not match.  They may say security or humor or kindness, but good luck making those work.  What they often really want is a guy who can look relaxed and have a great time and be very enthusiastic even totally by himself and they want to be a part of that mood, plus look strong, meaning have a strong voice (vocal training can help) and decently fit figure.  Basically, think of it like your style that way is singing a song, and the women wanting to hear that type of song at that moment, the ones who wish they could do what you are doing, will likely go for you.  Yes, even guys not in great shape can do that, though, provided they are having a good enough time.  Women say it's about "confidence".   Blah.  I swear it's far more about being fun and enjoying yourself.

  And, yes, some women go straight for really superficial things, like the size of a man's bulge or his having a 6 pack, and will even admit that publicly, but you likely have to look better than maybe 90% of guys because they have tons of guys fighting over them trying to win at their game.  Like some woman seeing me do a squat side surf on skates and imagining what it could do far as positions in bed.  Yes, I'm saying, don't play their game, unless what you enjoy doing for your own sake naturally builds you physically like that, because women can tell if you are doing things for them vs. yourself and doing that makes it less fun.

Why should you get casual sex? 
I think you should have to get married to get some sex. 
Serious sex. 

Why would you value women so badly as to seek it?

Maybe because you ain't got no game, playa.  I'm an old fat guy and I get more аss than a toilet seat.


Need to check yourself, bro.

stop jerking off you secrete pheromones' that tell a woman if you are fertile or not and if you go wasting all the baby gravy they smell that you are not and are not interested

It's not that hard, especially if you consider the bisexual brojob means of squirting.

may be because you are poor , havent you heard of getting a hooker or have a good pull .another poor troll , dosent yahoo pay you enough .

Really? I’ve never had a problem getting laid. Spin plates brother! 

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Because young men don't have enough money.  Women rank money above honesty and integrity when looking for a partner.  Women should really just put the yearly dollar amount of the man's income they want to spend in their ads.  "Looking for a man who will let me spend 20-30K of his income on stuff they would never purchase.  Plus good looking and honesty and a good sense of humor"

Because the women you want have more moral values than you have.

Casual sex is equal for men and women,, lots of great insights in the list of answer
but there are many things involved.... 

simple fact is look at the less than attractive women and the feel as you do. but if you are some stuck up man with the idea I want the top lookers... We you self limited your self and 

women in general hate conceded men 

and if you are not a nice looking man and no money as well self serving conceded ,,,,, Well that is why you fail,, 

Not sure if this will help yet.. 

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Because some females actually have hpv or herpes and they just dont want to tell you. There is some shame in hinting for sex. 

Maybe because of covid...

you have ur bros. dont think women are your only option!

Well a lot of it has to do with how he approaches it. If he comes off as desperate and needy, of course he's gonna repel women. That isn't attractive, not just to women, but just in general.

However, on the other hand, if a man is calm, charming and confident, with a slight air of indifference about him, that's gonna make him intriguing, because human nature tends to want what it can't have.

REMEMBER: Don't try to deliberately attract women. Work on yourself as a man, work hard at your job and take pride in your work; and if you don't have one then get one, have hobbies and goals, dress and groom well, exercise, and constantly strive to educate yourself and improve your social skills and women will naturally be drawn to you as a result, as doing these things breeds confidence.

NOTICE: And, just as important as the above, when a girl comes into your life, dont stop doing the things that made her attracted to you in the first place.

It SHOULD be harder than it is.  Indeed it is becoming more difficult as the downside is becoming more recognized.  A young man can always have casual sex in the privacy of his own bedroom though.  Women are not needed for that.