Was I wrong to ask?

Before anyone jumps down this guys throat about this look at her posting history.  Snowed is a control freak.  This isn't the first time he's blown up at her because she just has to know where he is every second of the day.  She likes to go into the bedroom where he's working and turn off lights while he's working.  She has a tracker on her phone to keep in touch with her grown sons.  He didn't blow up at you becuase this is the first time you've done this.  He blew up at you because you constantly do this.  I've seen posts where he's asked you several times to stop this but YOU are the one who won't listen.  My God, the man went to gas up his truck, go get some breakfast and get some coffee!  If all of that took 10 minutes then he must like next to the gas station, the Walmart, and across the street from McDonalds.  

And to ?'s response, I think you left out an option.  4) He actually did go get gas, run to the store, and stop and got his coffee.  Why was that not an option.  You say he blew up over a little thing but truth be told eventually those little things become big things when someone fails to correct their behavior and keep doing the same thing.  Again, this isn't the first time she's posted about not knowing where her husband was for an hour.  It probably took him all of an hour.  

I hope he does have someone to meet with, because I see no reason to be with you.  And leave your sons alone, before you become alone. They will move with Dad.  Are you a former warden? Or just a control freak.

The problem with over rigidity - a belief, routine or whatever, is that there is nowhere to go if something unexpected happens. It all seems like a bit of a storm in a teacup to me. Try, both of you, to be more trusting and accepting of the other. 

I can only say that if either of us do something unusual our other half is always curious.  It isn't checking up.  We share each other's lives.  Naturally we are interested in them, what they are up to and what they enjoy.  I would be suspicious if he was angry. It may be HOW you asked.

He is already on edge about something. He should have told you when altering his routine and such.  But. to go off on something that trivial, there are other issue, larger issues, on his mind.

put a tracker on his car and see where he goes. I hate to say it, but he might be stepping out on you. his defensiveness is a dead giveaway.

i think it's odd how he didn't ask if you wanted a bagel and cream cheese, or even some coffee.... like a normal husband would do. and the snapping... he's obviously over you. you had a good run, you're 51 and still not divorced yet. but it seems like you are heading towards that...

You weren't wrong to ask and your husband's defensiveness is odd. Maybe he had very controlling parents and his anger comes from his relationship with them. You have every right to know where your husband is and his issue can't be with you. 

No, you weren't wrong to be concerned, especially since your husband broke his normal, daily routine.  But some people get all mean and defensive for no apparent reason. 

I don't think you were wrong. Based on your question though, I'd guess he feels like he's being pestered. If you contact him often, maybe tone it down a bit. I don't agree with his reaction but I don't know ... maybe it's occurred a lot and he's frustrated. In my opinion, it sounds like he went and did just what he told you he did. However, he could of told you before going out the door. I think the communication you both have needs a little work. That's all. Good luck

I think this was perfectly reasonable. It’s common courtesy to let your wife know when you’re leaving the house. 

No, you weren't. 

Generally, in romantic relationships men seek ways to preserve their independence [freedom to roam] and women seek deeper intimacy [closeness, connection, telepathy, understanding without words, thinking alike, also emotional connection/intimacy, trust, feeling each other, knowing what he is doing without knowing what he is actually doing and he feels it, seeing through space and time]

Choose another way to go about it if what you're doing isn't working. 

Next time reply something like "if I knew you were going to Walmart, I'd ask you to pick up ______" 

Dam, I don't see anything wrong with that, maybe he was upset about something else? 

Without knowing more about his personality, 3 options come to mind:

1) He blows up at you over little stuff all the time and this is merely one example.  In which case, he is a bit of a jerk.

2) He was already mad at you over something else that you are oblivious to.

3) He was doing something that he knows you would not approve of, and getting defensive about it.