Does cuddling have to lead to sex?

Men don't need cuddling. We need intimacy and respect.

Because he's a guy, that's why.  You said so yourself, remember?  Guys only do cuddling if it leads to 'lower' cuddling.  If you can't handle that, become a lesbian.

Here's the bottom line:  A relationship absolutely is based on sex.  Marriage, common law, steady dating... call it whatever you want, but it's completely based on sex.  

Did your husband really start dating / propose / marry you so he could have someone's purse to hold while shopping?  Was it really so he could listen to someone complain for hours about what a jerk your cousin's ex boyfriend was?  Did he get involved with you so he could wait for 30 minutes while you pick out the right pair of shoes to wear to the cinema?  Did he just need someone to watch drippy romantic 'comedy' movies with so his friends wouldn't laugh at him?

If you answered yes to any of those questions, you answered wrong.  Your husband got into a relationship with you for the sex.  All that other stuff is fun (well not really), but it's not why he wanted to date / marry you.  There's a word for people who see each other often, care deeply about each other and share their hopes and fears and dreams together in a sacred bond of trust, and that word is friends.  Sex isn't one of the differences between friends and lovers, it's the only difference.

From the age of 10 until the age of completely dead, guys think about sex an average of 24 hours a day.  It's not the only thing we think about, it's just the thing we're always thinking about.  If you can't deal with that, you've got no business even talking to a guy.

Get outta here! He's given you a perfectly legitimate sensible explanation and you want random strangers to tell you why he can't cuddle without wanting to hop on? LOL Seriously?
THIS IS YOUR OTHER POST: My husband and I are in our early 50s. He's 51 and I'll be 50 in a few weeks. For the majority of the year he's not been wanting to touch me. Up until a few weeks ago we had only had sex maybe 3 times this year. Yes, I was sexually frustrated. About a month ago we finally did it. A week or so later he wanted to do it again but I wasn't in the mood. The next week we did have sex again. The other night he was playing around with me like he always does and I knew he wanted to have sex again but I turned him down again. I just wanted him to cuddle with me. One of his biggest issues with me is that I don't initiate sex anymore so he got to the point to where he wasn't going to keep making all the moves. We got into it again last night about it and he asked me when the last time I actually wanted sex and actually made a move to get it. Or. since cuddling is such a big thing with me why haven't I ever rolled over in the bed and actually cuddled with him. Maybe I'm wrong but I'm the one who wants to be cuddled not the one doing the cuddling. He even made mention that I don't go down on him anymore. It's like when we got married some 10 years ago that switch got turned off. Yeah, I know I've complained here a lot about our lack of sex but now it seems he wants it all the time now and I wasn't ready for that. Did I awaken a sleeping giant by complaining so much?

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Are you having sex with him other times when you're not cuddling or do you tend to push him away?  Every time you push him away, he is going to have some small feeling of rejection.  So if rejection is all he ever feels, I would not find it surprising that he never wants to just cuddle.

Cuddling without sex is teasing.. A tease is the lowest form of woman.

Yes although a bit of light fingering could also be possible.

That physical contact starts the sex machine in motion.

My wife wants me to cuddle every day.  That’s fine but it’s cold where we live and she wants the window open a crack.  In the summer we sleep on opposite sides of the bed when we wake up she’s miles away, because it is far too hot

I get plenty of opportunities for sex which is great.  But I cuddle my wife many times every day.  I would have to be superman if each of these lead to sex.  I cuddle for hours every night.  Again I would need to be superman to do this in other ways.

youre going to get a lot of haters on here giving you crap.  ignore them. 

bottom line, make sure you are meeting his needs.  then if he is not meeting yours, talk to him about it but chose a time that the problem isnt ocurring.  In other words, talk to him about it when you are riding in the car, eating dinner, or some time other than you are wanting to cuddle.

Listen, although I'm far & away on your side of this argument, I also don't want to detract from the idea that he can get tired of cuddling or he can't do it w/o getting stiff. He should be entitled to some sleep too... Now, can he just cuddle with you until you fall asleep and then he can just turn over and go to sleep himself?... I would think so, but I'm not in his shoes..
No cuddling doesn't have to lead to sex. There has to be a way to resolve this in a way that works for everyone; it's not rocket science... Hopefully other people have some suggestions. Good luck.

You keep asking this same question over and over again. He doesn't want your old a*s b*tch!! Ugh hang it the f*ck up!!

You seem to assume that men have complete and utter control over their erections, which is far from the truth. Seriously, sister, if you're pushing 50 and your guy still gets hard just at the thought of having sex with you, take it as the blessing it is. It's a trope that women give sex to get love and men give love to get sex. But expecting a sexually healthy guy to just cuddle you for hours like some Taylor Swift video and not get excited by it is a wee bit naive on your part. You like cuddling, he likes sex, these are the positions from which you have to start negotiating. He doesn't want to cuddle you unless he gets something out of it too. So work on this as a couple. 

I've been seeing someone for about a couple weeks now. Im 20 and he's 21 and we are really just good friends that sleep together, but to answer your question bluntly NO. They're is a difference between getting close together because youre turned on, or being close together because you just want to be next to someone. In my case, we do cuddle that can lead to sex, but we also just cuddle and watch TV. Be completely clear with him from the get go that you just want to cuddle. open communication will solve this problem ten fold. 

It depends. It's about the connection you have with the person. Like you can cuddle with your lover and have thoughts on wanting to have sex with your lover or cuddle with your lover but don't have sex with your lover.

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Prerogative of mature sex is SAVORING. 
You have time. No need to be in hurry. 
It's not like when you were young and immature to get it done fast and and as many times as possible. 
So cuddle and enjoy sensations. 
Touching, slow long kissing keeps your erogenous zones ALIVE for many-many years!
Alive erogenous zones will be still sensitive in your 90's or 100's, if you make it that far, AND it will be giving you ORGASMS till death from just touching as long as you take care of them. Remember there is no guarantee your man will have erection that far in the future. Statistics and the way men take care of themselves are sad!
Besides, would you mind if he takes it further?
At the end of the day you're probably tired and just want to relax, so let him do the job, work the night shift and take care of his erogenous zones... enjoy and go to sleep!

Not all the time. I do usually get a bon*r, and if the wife giggles it usually means she wants it, if she doesnt acknowledge it then it's a no go

Try shatavari. Its a great libido boster herb for women. For men xanthoparmelia, cnidium, butea are great. 

No.  My exhusband used "cuddle" as code for sex and it was something I grew to really hate about him.  It was never really cuddling either and never any cuddling after once we got married.  Once the sex stopped (his decision) there was never so much as a hug again.  I didn't settle down again until I found a man who genuinely likes a cuddle and is very clear that sex and cuddling are not the same activity.  We have a very good sex life and part of that is that we can be physically close without any expectation it has to lead to sex.  It sounds counter-intuitive perhaps but I think many couples go off sex with each other because they don't feel emotionally safe to be physically intimate in a non-sexual way when feeling exhausted or sad or under the weather when sex isn't what you need at that moment. To be "comforted" shouldn't be a euphemism. Of course if it's hot it gets sticky to sleep entwined all night but I love the fact that all these years on we still at least sleep with a leg touching at a minimum completely unconsciously.

I would just take what I can get, enjoy it for a little while and go to sleep.