Please help. How can I stop wanting a man to dominate me, control me and basically abuse me? I am a woman and I have always felt this desire?

Many women are into BDSM, but many will not talk about it publicly. Your desires are not odd, but if this is something you explore you just need to be safe. My boyfriend and I have experimented with rope, gagging, whipping, etc and our relationship is COMPLETELY healthy. We respect each other, and we lead normal lives. It’s all just role play. Therapists used to believe that this desire required intervention, but we have now evolved to know that there is NO therapy needed as long as it stays in the bedroom and doesn’t get too dangerous.

You should be able to desire other things aside from that though. Perhaps when you find the right person, you’ll want to be affectionate and gentle.

You're quite submissive and these desires cater to this aspect about you. Keep them fantasy and perhaps explore some of the more mild things about your fantasy with a trusting partner.

get therapy...................

Many men and women had similar desires, there’s no problem with that. You need not change it since you’re perfectly fine. I would suggest you explore your fantasies in a safe way.  

Heading to areas where rapists usually hang out might not be a good idea. Although it could definitely stop your desire of wanting a man to dominate, control or abuse you.