I love piercings but my parents don't?

2019-08-27 6:43 am
It's not that I'm not allowed to get them and it hasn't stopped me from doing so in the past, I'm an adult and I make those decisions for myself. However, I can't say it doesn't influence those decisions, which I hate. I've been wanting to get my septum pierced for a while, and I know for a fact that's one of the piercings my parents hate the most, everytime they see someone with one they make jokes that can be especially insensitive at time so it's made me feel uncomfortable just going for it and not caring. On top of this the last time I got a piercing (an ashley piercing) which is like the centre of the bottom lip, I went with my boyfriend and friend and they including myself thought it looked really nice on me. I get home and my mum tells me how stupid it looks and how I would've looked better with it almost anywhere else, and then at dinner in front of my friend who decided to stay her and the rest of my family continued to patronise and make me feel incredibly shitty about it. I kept it for as long as I wanted and took it out in my own time because that's what I do, I get piercings and if after a while I'm over it I take it out no issues. The thing that gets me the most is when I took it out, no one even noticed it was gone until I blatantly pointed it out to which they then said 'you look better without it'. I just hate how they make such a big deal of something that clearly couldn't have impacted them that much if they didn't even notice to begin with. What do I do?

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2019-09-01 4:51 am
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I completely understand this. My mum is the exact same and I have three facial piercings (Septum, Vertical Labret and Medusa).
My septum was my first piercing and although I’m aloud them (I’m an adult and it’s my body) my mum would always say “you’ll look like a bull” etc.
It took me a while to get them done, after feeling confident that it’s what I wanted.
I must warn you. They won’t change their minds. My mum still dislikes mine but she just doesn’t mention it and I still get the odd remark.
It’s something you’ll have to decide.
2019-08-27 6:55 am
If you are living on your own, supporting yourself, your parents have no say with it.

If not, and you are over 18, they can kick you out anytime if you do something they don't like. Sure hope you have enough savings to get an apartment if they kick you out.
2019-08-27 6:56 am
They're not going to change their minds. That's what you want. But it ain't happening. So just do what you want and live with it as you've been doing.
2019-08-27 6:49 am
I am torn here. On the one hand some piercings literally cause my stomach to churn. Sort of like self mutilation.
On the other hand, I believe that you should do what you want with your body.

I might not notice your missing piercing because I would probably not really look at you when you had it.


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