Why am I always so paranoid and jealous about a few girls ? Why am I so conscious about my looks ? How to be a guy that girls like ? Help?
2019-06-23 1:23 pm
I am 21 years old male. I am an extremely paranoid and jealous guy. Even though a girl is not my girlfriend and I see a different guy talking to her , I don't get angry but I think to my self that why that girl doesn't speak as enthusiastically with me. I keep asking this one girl why she texts a guy more than me and she is a very nice girl and she always says that it is just my assumption but i don't believe her. Because of this paranoia , I completely ignored her in office for 3 days and the 4th day she came directly to me and asked me why I am acting like a kid. After I reached home I messaged her asking why she did that and then she called me and sorted out the issue. I keep asking her why she sends him longer texts and why she likes him more and she says that she never compares. I won't be surprised even if she likes the other guy more because I am generally not likeable by girls. I have heard that many girls think I'm good looking even in office. They have told me this but have never called me hot maybe because I'm a little out of shape but that's is fixable. I also care a lot about how my face looks .I have started working out and hope to become "hot" . I wish I was the guy girls actually liked being around. Girls have also call me annoying because I keep irritating then but it's my nature. How to come out of this childish attitude and become mature ? How to stop ignoring girls when there is a problem and face the issue and sort it ?
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2019-06-25 2:34 am
Sounds like basic sense of entitlement and not realizing that attention from females is earned not a right you have simply for having been born male. Women can usually tell when a guy views them as a trophy or plaything rather than as a fellow human being. Seems it's your attitude and not your face that's the problem.
2019-06-23 1:30 pm
girls don't tend to like guys who treat the girl as if the guys feelings are more important than the girl. Girls don't tend to like guys who accuse them of doing things when it relates to things that are zero business of the guy (i.e. who she texts and the length of her texts to anyone). Girls don't tend to like guys who ask them questions that compare the guy to any other human being on the planet because A. it's not any of the guys business who they like or talk to and B. Comparisons are opinions and who really cares what you think?
In a sense, girls don't like insecure guys, which is probably why girls may think you're good looking but then don't want to talk about you because you come off as rude, insecure, demanding, controlling or irrelevant. You already seem to know you have issues in this area, so maybe it would be wise to talk to a professional to find the root of your thought process. Once you get over your anxiety you will probably be able to have a more productive conversation with women.
In a sense, girls don't like insecure guys, which is probably why girls may think you're good looking but then don't want to talk about you because you come off as rude, insecure, demanding, controlling or irrelevant. You already seem to know you have issues in this area, so maybe it would be wise to talk to a professional to find the root of your thought process. Once you get over your anxiety you will probably be able to have a more productive conversation with women.
2019-06-23 1:27 pm
You sound like a very insecure person to me. I think this insecurity comes from a lack of confidence and self-esteem. What girl is going to want to talk to a guy that makes completely unfounded accusations anyway?
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