Why do I get pissed off and angry when I approach girls ( friends ) but they never approach me ? Is this one sided friendship ? Please help?
2019-05-06 11:00 pm
I am 21 year old male.I work in an office .I have recently started getting upset when I approach girls but they never approach me to just talk .I am generally a nice guy but recently this has gotten me very angry. Its not like they are busy with work because we all have the same amount of work and not so much that it's impossible for them to come talk to me .This is this about the first girl in my office .She is a nice girl and talks to people but I know that it is only me approaching her first , me saying hi and it's like I have to call her 3-4 times before she comes and talks to me. I have known this girl for almost a year. Same thing with a second girl .I asked her why she doesn't come and talk and she says what's wrong if you come , why so much ego.I told her it's not ego because I also come and talk to her. I am a very nice guy and I feel these girls take me for granted like I need them because I have always approached them. So I don't know what happened but past week Friday I had enough and just stopped talking to these girls . The first girl said hi , how are you and I spoke normally . But i never approached her. She came to me in the afternoon and said " hey how come you didn't come and talk to me " and I said I didn't want to disturb you and then I told her I have a lot of work so she should just go . She said why are you showing this much attitude. She also asked me for a few questions after. The second girl saw me later on but I didn't speak to her properly today.
回答 (5)
2019-05-08 2:45 am
It's because your sense of entitlement causes you to believe these women owe you their time. This is your problem, not theirs.
2019-05-07 3:33 pm
good question!
2019-05-06 11:06 pm
Yes why are you showing so much attitude?
Just curious.
Females like guys to be the ones initiating conversations. It's just the nature of the beast.
Not sure why you're all bent out of shape over this?
Just curious.
Females like guys to be the ones initiating conversations. It's just the nature of the beast.
Not sure why you're all bent out of shape over this?
2019-05-06 11:04 pm
It sounds like you need to work on yourself and stop blaming how you feel on others. No one controls your feeling unless you allow it. Don't give ANYONE that power! Once you recognize that its you causing those feelings and no one else and take responsibility in how you feel, you will find peace within and emotionally stronger person , you will see people will be more drawn to you . Don't be your own worst enemy.
參考: Been there
2019-05-07 12:23 am
You get pissed because they ARE taking you for granted.
It isn't your fault, but it is the result of you creating a habit that you aren't happy with.
If you value their friendship and they value yours, just stay at your desk, be patient and get rid of the attitude. Eventually they will come to you, and when they do, you need to show appreciation for that gesture by creating a positive atmosphere so they'll want to come back instead of writing you off as some sensitive loser.
It isn't your fault, but it is the result of you creating a habit that you aren't happy with.
If you value their friendship and they value yours, just stay at your desk, be patient and get rid of the attitude. Eventually they will come to you, and when they do, you need to show appreciation for that gesture by creating a positive atmosphere so they'll want to come back instead of writing you off as some sensitive loser.
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