Is it my fault? Read Description?
2019-04-23 8:13 pm
So I’m a 21 year old women. I mostly have grown up in Georgia and for a little while been in New York . I have been in New York for 5 months now , and I have been here with my grandma. I live in a house with my grandma. My aunt , cousins , uncle and his girlfriend and kids. Also my aunts boyfriend. In Georgia, my mom , brothers and stepdad live there . I honestly came to New York mainly to pick up my grandma so she could go to Georgia in November. I came and went with her and ended up staying just for Christmas and New Years . But I got used to it and stayed in New York . I didn’t want to leave and I decided to stay. I did leave most of my stuff in my room in Georgia and I have wanted to go back but I haven’t been thinking lately. The other thing is I got so attached to this family here that I don’t want to leave . Plus I just received a text from my mom saying she had a health scare last night . She said she couldn’t breathe and felt numb on one side of her body. I am worried about her . But I don’t know what to do. Most of the time I feel like my mom has always leaned on me but she does have my brothers and stepdad. They act like they can’t do anything. I do want to go back to see my mom but I know for a fact that if I do go back , I won’t come back to New York since I will get comfortable being in Georgia. Is it my fault though. Is it immature my mom is leaning on me
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2019-04-24 2:08 am
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You ask if it's your fault, and I don't even know what that means. None of this is something you'd blame yourself for!However, it sounds to me like you're almost being too analytical (I have this to a fault). You end up sabotaging yourself by predicting outcomes you don't want, but you know you'll do them anyway. Stop with that.
Sure, it's easier said than done, but families are scattered everywhere these days. Most people manage a trip back home without being afraid they'll forget to leave! If you've thought it through and really love it in NY, then it's just a matter of planning the logistics of going to GA. You could do this over a long weekend, pack up your stuff and have it sent to you UPS ground. If there's too much, check costs of renting a small Uhaul trailer and make it a road trip. It would be fun if you found someone to do it with you, and you can get there in 2 (long) days.
See what I'm trying to say? Start focusing on ways to get home and finish up there, rather than all the reasons you'll get trapped in GA. That won't happen unless you legit change your mind and decide you prefer it there (which doesn't sound likely).
2019-04-23 10:32 pm
i dont think so but i would at least go visit her
2019-04-23 10:13 pm
I think you should go to your mom and stay with her because the others are Man and don’t really understand each other unlike a daughter to mother relationship
2019-04-23 8:18 pm
Sounds like you have some Dependency Troll issues. You should consult a professional Psychologist to help you through some of these dependency issues dealing with your family(and probably other relationships)..
2019-04-23 8:18 pm
" Is it immature my mom is leaning on me"
Isn't that what family does for each other?
I know that's how it works in our family, sometimes one needs help and family step up.
They don't act like a runaway and live in someone else's house either.
where you live and whether you support your mother in a time of need is up to you, but overstaying on a trip isnt the mature way to leave home, neither is projecting blame
Isn't that what family does for each other?
I know that's how it works in our family, sometimes one needs help and family step up.
They don't act like a runaway and live in someone else's house either.
where you live and whether you support your mother in a time of need is up to you, but overstaying on a trip isnt the mature way to leave home, neither is projecting blame
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