Is romantic love pretty pointless and is it actually even real?

It’s not real. “Love” between adults is a combination of oxytocin, sexual attraction and finances (outside of familial relationships). If you’re at all deficient in either financial stability/success (meaning an hourly or salaried career) or physical attractiveness to those you WANT to attract, the chances of finding “real love” are an absolute zero.
That being said, “love” is pointless unless you have something worth inheriting...

Two things are confused with each other. The Greek language has different words for what we call love - a word for pure, unselfish love, a word for friendship, a word for love from familiarity, such as the way you might feel for a neighbor you've known for many years, and a word for the way a boy feels toward a girl he's smitten with. The word for the latter is "eros."

Eros is often confused with romantic love, but they're not the same. Nor is eros, as some believe, nothing but self-centered desire. It has an element of concern for the one who is loved. In fact, it may prompt people to make great sacrifices. But romantic love, part of our culture that dates back to the Renaissance, is something different.

Romantic love has as its dogma that there is only one person in the world suited for you, and without that person you are nothing. It's the stuff of tragic opera and rock songs about broken hearts. This was not an idea of the ancient Greek philosophers or an idea of the medieval Church. In olden times, you just got over it after a breakup.

Someone has said, and I'm inclined to agree, that romanticism is actually the cause of so many breakups and divorces. Romanticism says, "You complete me," which is a statement and can be interpreted as a demand. A happy relationship is one in which the partners don't demand that the partner supply them with happiness. It has partners who use their own resources to be happy and look after the partner as well.

You are looking at it from one angle. Look at the couples who stayed together for all those years. What made them different from all the rest? Its romance & love.

Another way to look at it. Look at the words themselves. Go from right to left instead of left to right. Focus on love without romance. You are straight. Meaning you first loved your mother a woman. Of course you don't romance your mom, but you love her and always will. Love another woman without romance without nakedness aka sin. This requires time. Then romance. Meaning dont romance to love her. Love to romance her. Doing it this way you make her special to you. She feels this and likewise returns this 2 fold. For she is the receiver and you the giver. Give her food she gives you a meal. Give her a house she gives you a home. Give her a child she gives you a family. And so forth. You love making her happy because she makes you happier.

A happy wife is a happy life. Romance&love is the path to this. But it's no guarantee

Well you make a well-organized, cogent, argument. And I for one, as an intellectual, appreciate that. Yet for all that, it is wrong! When love does come to us, it changes everything. It is no less of an impact, a departure from normal, than a full-on LSD trip. It fills our life with happiness. It's a fairy tale come true. And we're all as surprised to find out that it's real as if Santa Claus was waiting at our kitchen table this morning over coffee. Like when your body matured and you first felt sex - oh, THIS must be what they're talking about - wow - who knew? Like that. Don't give up on it, my friend. (we're all friends in this way, in this shared knowledge). Keep your eyes open for it. And you may find it has been waiting, in someone you've known for a while, too - it often sneaks up on you. Good luck, bonne chance.

There are different kinds of love all over the world. Love feelings are caused by the spirits to human beings for different reasons. If your fate is not good you may love a bad woman and fall in trouble. If your fate is good you may get a kind and virtuous woman for your life and live a happy life.

God doesn't watch each and every human being at the same time and cannot live with each and everyone to guide them. These works are done by the spirits. God had created different kinds of spirits for various purposes. He had made the spirits to watch, guide and determine the destiny of the human beings from their daily activities, talks and thoughts too. Your past determines your present and your present determines your future. God has given freewill to all creatures including human beings. According to this, all human beings have all right to live a life as they wish. But if it happens to be bad and hurts someone, they have to face the consequences. These consequences are created by spirits. It's a natural system. After death no one lives in any form. Heaven and hell are only for spirits, not for human beings. Spirits are separate elements. A human being is not a single spirit. A human being doesn't have a spiritual body. A human being during his/her lifetime is living with many spirits which have joined one by one since birth. They are knowledge, skills, feelings, emotions, interests and everything. Even thoughts are not your own. For example, when you want to take a decision on a subject, one after another the spirits think and you just listen, choose or reject the ideas which they transmit to your mind through your brain in the form of thoughts. Brain is just a media to connect the spirits to your mind. A mind is just a computer's mind. After the destruction of a computer completely you will not get it's mind. The same is the case with the human beings. Soul is nothing but an energy needed for the functionality of a body. It is not a spirit or anything else. All human beings are just robots made of flesh and bones and toys of the spirits for their games.

What a sad empty life you're in for then but I guess if that's your perspective you're the one who has to live with it not me. Whatever your views on the subject I've been married for over 40years and don't regret a single day

Whatever flippant remarks I may make about marriage I hope that when you really need them your naked friends are as willing to give you unconditional support as they are to have casual sex. That's a two way street and can be a painful path as you may learn to your cost

You are looking at it from one angle. Look at the couples who stayed together for all those years. What made them different from all the rest? Its romance & love.

Another way to look at it. Look at the words themselves. Go from right to left instead of left to right. Focus on love without romance. You are straight. Meaning you first loved your mother a woman. Of course you don't romance your mom, but you love her and always will. Love another woman without romance without nakedness aka sin. This requires time. Then romance. Meaning dont romance to love her. Love to romance her. Doing it this way you make her special to you. She feels this and likewise returns this 2 fold. For she is the receiver and you the giver. Give her food she gives you a meal. Give her a house she gives you a home. Give her a child she gives you a family. And so forth. You love making her happy because she makes you happier.

A happy wife is a happy life. Romance&love is the path to this. But it's no guarantee