Should I forgive my "girlfriend"?
2017-10-13 12:33 am
I have been talking to this girl for about a month now and we've met each other about 10-15 times I would say, and we have caught feelings for each other. We have been in contact every single day and we share the same thoughts about things and we are really alike each other. Even though we aren't in a relationship, we still were doing things on that level, and decided for it to wait for later on. But recently she made out with someone at a party and claimed that it was because of the alcohol. I have lost all my respect and can't really trust her anymore. Which I wish I wouldn't have to do. I felt like I was betrayed/cheated on even though we weren't in a relationship. She is sorry for what she did, and even said that she loved me beforehand. She wants us to be in a relationship and she really likes me, and I don't know what I should do. Now my question is: Should I forgive her for what she did, or should I just stop talking to her or call her as a friend?
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2017-10-13 12:38 am
Only you can decide what you can put up with.
As far as I'm concerned, it the two of you aren't going out on dates, and haven't told each other you're in an exclusive relationship, there was not cheating, no betrayal.
Alcohol does often lead to choices we may regret later. If her drinking isn't habitual, I wouldn't think much of it. Regular alcohol consumption would be more worrisome to me that a one-time making out with someone.
As far as I'm concerned, it the two of you aren't going out on dates, and haven't told each other you're in an exclusive relationship, there was not cheating, no betrayal.
Alcohol does often lead to choices we may regret later. If her drinking isn't habitual, I wouldn't think much of it. Regular alcohol consumption would be more worrisome to me that a one-time making out with someone.
2017-10-13 1:18 am
You chose not to make it a relationship. Why should she not go with others? But beware of that drinking or worse may happen
2017-10-13 12:50 am
Either you're in a relationship, or she's free to make out or even have sex with anybody she wants. You can't have it both ways.
2017-10-13 12:42 am
Oh yes, you're all correct on this one. But the thing is. If I were to apologize and forgive her etc... Could I still trust her?
2017-10-13 12:41 am
It sounds you are not willing to commit to a relationship, yet demand from her that she should behave like you are in a relationship. If you decide you are not ready to be in a relationship with her, you have no reason whatsoever to feel upset or betrayed. If you feel like it, it's your problem and it is unfair to make it hers. You might want to wait with relationships until you are more mature.
The options at this point are that either you start a relationship with her or you stop talking to each other. Since you know she loves you, stringing her along would be mean. And you don't have to forgive her, she hasn't done anything wrong. Though doing what she doesn't want to do under the influence of alcohol should be concerning to her, but that is at the moment not your problem.
The options at this point are that either you start a relationship with her or you stop talking to each other. Since you know she loves you, stringing her along would be mean. And you don't have to forgive her, she hasn't done anything wrong. Though doing what she doesn't want to do under the influence of alcohol should be concerning to her, but that is at the moment not your problem.
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