We are at only 9months into our marriage and my husband doesn t wanna have sex with me and is really distant even when we sleep.
What happened is that I was in another town right after our wedding for work purposes and he was even encouraging me since it was my first job. We only used to see each other during weekends and it was the only time we had sex and I even got pregnant 4months after I left. Since I got pregnant I had no sexual desire, and even if I faked it I had the feeling that something was burning down there, I was dry and so so tight. So it was hell for me. He complained that we are not having sex anymore, that I am not willing to do some effort. I explain everything to him and even my doctor did but nothing. Still complained. So my only solution was lubrification. With my miracle lubricant, he said that it s not natural, that he wants to have sex naturally. I said I can t becoz he can barely go in when he tries to penetrate and he snot small. I am almost 6months pregnant. It s really hard for me to think that I am doing some effort and he doesn t care. Still I try to touch and caress him and he rejects me saying he is tired. When I tried to talked to him about it, he said that I got him used to not have sex. He loves me and is the best husband and I know he is not cheating. I understand him but I also want him to understand that it s pregnancy. What can I do to rekindle our sexual life? I am lost. It s too early 4 that 4 a new couple. Help.
There is no physical contact between my husband and I! Help!?
2017-10-03 7:47 pm
回答 (12)
2017-10-04 1:41 am
So you say he won't have sex with you because you need to use personal lubricant? Time for marriage counseling, so Junior can try to learn more about adult relationships and how bodies change when hormones change. Otherwise, you might have to throw that rotten fish back and find yourself a fresh one.
2017-10-03 7:56 pm
Try to get him to go to counseling with you. If that doesn't work, go yourself to get help to learn to deal better with the situation. There is also the possibility he has a medical issue going on that is affecting his libido.
2017-10-03 8:05 pm
This is so confusing. You are saying both that sex is painful and that you don't want to do it AND that you want to "rekindle" your "sexual life". Make up your mind! Do you want to have sex with your husband or don't you?!?
2017-10-03 11:05 pm
Perhaps counseling may help him. It seems he's being insensitive and unreasonable.
2017-10-03 9:32 pm
Book a marriage counseling appointment.
2017-10-05 5:31 am
stop your whining and complaining, leave him alone. that is a huge turnoff too pestering
someone for it. welcome to the world of marriage, sex fades to nothing soon after wedding
for all married couples. you should not be basing your marriage on it in the first place
and you many need to learn this the hard way, after 8 failed marriages
most people outgrow sex, it only brings misery, stress health problems and destroys
relationships. if you want quality time with him, go to the gym with him, or travel
exercise is known to be a way better stress reliever. learn how to love him
without placing demands. you will only make things worse by hounding him
for it, and the fact that you air out your dirty trash, on a place like this, without
his permission shows you have no respect for him, and that is a way bigger
problem than your bitching about no sex. you deserve to have the same
done to you. karma is good that way and one day you will be paid back
for your inconsideration towards him
someone for it. welcome to the world of marriage, sex fades to nothing soon after wedding
for all married couples. you should not be basing your marriage on it in the first place
and you many need to learn this the hard way, after 8 failed marriages
most people outgrow sex, it only brings misery, stress health problems and destroys
relationships. if you want quality time with him, go to the gym with him, or travel
exercise is known to be a way better stress reliever. learn how to love him
without placing demands. you will only make things worse by hounding him
for it, and the fact that you air out your dirty trash, on a place like this, without
his permission shows you have no respect for him, and that is a way bigger
problem than your bitching about no sex. you deserve to have the same
done to you. karma is good that way and one day you will be paid back
for your inconsideration towards him
2017-10-03 8:30 pm
You need strategy and understand of process sex.
1. Guy get hard erection when he see girl or even imagine a naked girl. But, girl need stimulation around min 10 minutes to be aroused and be lubricated.
2. Woman body can be drilled to response better by frequent sex. Therefore your husband shall learn about woman sexual process , arouse , lubrication , intercourse and orgasms. Then much better sex orgasms are available.
3. During pregnancy periods , you can sex safely until very last month with care to not hit baby. It is very fine for baby also bc good emotional feeling.
4. If your husband do not try foreplay, then ask him to give few minutes like as washing. Then you can stimulate by yourself to be aroused before sex so that you can enjoy smooth sex with him.
5. I always suck my wife genital as last fore play. It is usually very good.
6. Traditional best foreplay written is as follows.
. Start foreplay fr far side of body to move center, genital.
. Do longer till aroused.
1. Guy get hard erection when he see girl or even imagine a naked girl. But, girl need stimulation around min 10 minutes to be aroused and be lubricated.
2. Woman body can be drilled to response better by frequent sex. Therefore your husband shall learn about woman sexual process , arouse , lubrication , intercourse and orgasms. Then much better sex orgasms are available.
3. During pregnancy periods , you can sex safely until very last month with care to not hit baby. It is very fine for baby also bc good emotional feeling.
4. If your husband do not try foreplay, then ask him to give few minutes like as washing. Then you can stimulate by yourself to be aroused before sex so that you can enjoy smooth sex with him.
5. I always suck my wife genital as last fore play. It is usually very good.
6. Traditional best foreplay written is as follows.
. Start foreplay fr far side of body to move center, genital.
. Do longer till aroused.
2017-10-04 12:02 am
if he's not willing to make love to you then find someone (or several someones) that will. you have every right to get your needs met. piss on this selfish bozo. don't feel guilty either. it's his fault that you have to go outside the marriage to get your womanly needs met.
2017-10-03 11:43 pm
Ask him why. When he answers listen without getting defensive and try your best to solve it.
2017-10-03 7:55 pm
He seems really all over the place doesnt he. He needs to be more understanding towards you and less selfish.
The lube thing is ridiculous!! if it helps you then all the better. You seem to make alot of effort but him not so much.
To rekindle what you had wait until after the child as you cant do much atm to be fair. BTW sorry but no man goes without sex I dont want to scare you so if hes not cheating then he must be relieving himself which again could be an issue for you down the line.
Sorry but relationships (for me) and 50/50 sex/relationships. They always go hand in ahnd and when one ends the other does to.
I really wish you get this sorted and try not to blame yourself he is being a total jerk and not caring about the most important woman in his life currently!!
Stay Strong
The lube thing is ridiculous!! if it helps you then all the better. You seem to make alot of effort but him not so much.
To rekindle what you had wait until after the child as you cant do much atm to be fair. BTW sorry but no man goes without sex I dont want to scare you so if hes not cheating then he must be relieving himself which again could be an issue for you down the line.
Sorry but relationships (for me) and 50/50 sex/relationships. They always go hand in ahnd and when one ends the other does to.
I really wish you get this sorted and try not to blame yourself he is being a total jerk and not caring about the most important woman in his life currently!!
Stay Strong
2017-10-05 9:25 am
You could have sex with a younger man or cuddle with him like I did with the married woman until I turned it off because she was freaking married
2017-10-04 2:23 am
if you cant have sex settle for cuddleing perhaps?
2017-10-04 1:47 am
You are not a man, and he wants a man.
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