A child is constantly insulting or being disrespectful to me, and when I complain about it, I get blamed.?

2017-05-21 1:58 am

This has been going on for years, and so far I ve tried to put up with it thinking she might grow out of it, but being six or seven now, that hasn t happened, and I m just getting sick of this. As soon as this child see s me she can t wait to either insult me, show me something, and then ask if I want it only to immediately say "too bad!", or when I m talking to someone repeatedly keeps making noise just to make it hard for me to concentrate, or constantly tells me to "shut up," or that her head hurts.

This is nothing new...this has been going on for years, and because she lives in the same house as I do, avoiding her isn t an option, especially when as soon as she sees me the first thing she does is respond with "hello stupid," or "this is my house and not yours." I have told her to leave me alone, but I get blamed for that. I have tried ignoring her, and she would just end up insulting me non-stop, or stamping on my foot in order to get me to respond to her. When I successfully started to ignore her, I was told if I would just talk to her she would quit, so now I m right back to where I started, and yes, I am being told to just ignore her all over again.

I m getting tired of this...this is like someone abusing and torturing a dog only for a second person, knowing full well what is going on, to immediately start screaming and yelling at the dog because it is making too much noise as it s being abused. I don t know what to do...is this some kind of mental abuse?

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The child's father (my uncle) is staying with us. They know about it because they frequently complain and say "your an adult and she's a kid." I may be an adult (32 with Asperger's syndrome...the diagnosed kind not the self-diagnosed kind...I know...I fail at life), but I'm worried about one day just loosing my temper and hurting her...I frequently find myself wanting to do that, but I hold back, or leave before it get's too late. Also, no, she's not handicapped, at least not that I know.

回答 (4)

Pearl L

2017-05-21 8:57 am

maybe you should move out so you dont have to deal with her

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[匿名]

2017-05-21 3:00 am

Try to get out of that situation. The child has no discipline, and it's not going to stop because no one is going to reprehend her for her behavior.

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[匿名]

2017-05-21 2:20 am

So where exactly is this child's mom and dad? Are they aware that this is going on? Is the child mentally retarded or otherwise not in control of her actions?

My suggestion would be to have a very frank talk with her parents and explain to them that they owe it to their child to get this under control or she will end up being a failure at life. If she grows up believing that she can say and do whatever she wants to other people, how is she ever supposed to hold down a job? They'd better get used to supporting her for the rest of her life if that's their strategy because she'll never hold down a job long enough to support herself.

Secondly - she's 6 or 7 now. What do they think she's going to do when she's 15? They're creating a monster and that monster is going to turn on them one day. And when it does, you will sit back with a huge smug smile on your face and say "I told you so".

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[匿名]

2017-05-21 2:02 am

This is what's wrong with youth today; they aren't disciplined and corrected. You shouldn't be blamed for sticking up for yourself. That is such a twisted thing. If this is the language she is going to have with you, then I would give her a taste of her own medicine.

Also, those that blame you, question them about it. Ask them why isn't that she gets away with anything she wants, but as soon a you rightfully defend yourself, they have a problem with it?

If you're old enough, see about moving out.

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