if your family is toxic, what is the best way to approach that for mental health? I feel awful and drained of energy every visit but i wish?

i had a close bond with my family. part of me is thinking no contact is just the best way. my mom is a hoarder with poor mental & physical health...and really setting & enforcing a boundary with her does not work...it's been years of effort and i think i just have to accept that she never was and never will be capable of the bond that i wanted. will my own state of well-being be better if i cut ties?