Does he find me attractive or unattractive? I will answer your question if you answer mine.?
2017-05-14 11:53 am
I have this guy friend that I find attractive. Let's call him B. When I first met him I thought that he was cute based on his looks but as I got to know him, I found him to be cuter because of his personality. He's a gentleman who doesn't treat girls like they are sexual objects and I never ever saw him being mean to girls who have acne and/or acne scars ( I have acne and acne scars and he was never mean to me about it ). I sit next to him and there is this girl who sits next to me, A, and this girl who sits in front of me, An, and both of them are friends with him. I sometimes talk to them as well and he jokes around with them. There was this one time he was talking to A and he told her that one of his guy friends said something about her and she asked If he said that she was ugly and B said that A is a cutie right in front of my face. A also has acne and acne scars. I honestly feel like he doesn't find me attractive because of my acne and acne scars. B does talk to me sometimes but he never jokes with me. Honestly, most of the guys I met called me ugly to my face excluding my guy friends. Also, I know that B doesn't like me like that.
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2017-05-14 12:37 pm
The key question is whether or not he's a strong guy.
May I suggest that the first question to ask yourself when considering whether or not to date someone is, “Is this person a strong person?” If they’re not, no matter how much you like them, how much they like you, or how “cute” or “hot” they are, - please don’t date them. A strong person has good character (honesty, integrity, trustworthiness), displays a positive attitude (cheerful, caring, friendly, forgiving, helpful, and respectful), fulfills their responsibilities (for handling pains in a positive way, for always trying to make a good choice, for taking care of themselves, for serving others), gives their best effort, and demonstrates self-control (of their body, anger, tongue and money). A strong person isn't overly concerned with what weak mean people say, do, or think.
My suggestion is that you put in the effort necessary to become a strong person (if you’re not already), forget about this guy unless he’s a strong person, and eventually look for this type of guy (otherwise you are setting yourself up for a broken heart). Unfortunately this type of man is difficult to find – but save yourself the heartache and don’t settle for less.
(Please remember that you eventually want a 50 or 60 year marriage - not a 5 or 10 year marriage.)
Hope this helps!
PS The best way to get to know a strong man without dating is to participate in the activities of a community service or a school organization.
May I suggest that the first question to ask yourself when considering whether or not to date someone is, “Is this person a strong person?” If they’re not, no matter how much you like them, how much they like you, or how “cute” or “hot” they are, - please don’t date them. A strong person has good character (honesty, integrity, trustworthiness), displays a positive attitude (cheerful, caring, friendly, forgiving, helpful, and respectful), fulfills their responsibilities (for handling pains in a positive way, for always trying to make a good choice, for taking care of themselves, for serving others), gives their best effort, and demonstrates self-control (of their body, anger, tongue and money). A strong person isn't overly concerned with what weak mean people say, do, or think.
My suggestion is that you put in the effort necessary to become a strong person (if you’re not already), forget about this guy unless he’s a strong person, and eventually look for this type of guy (otherwise you are setting yourself up for a broken heart). Unfortunately this type of man is difficult to find – but save yourself the heartache and don’t settle for less.
(Please remember that you eventually want a 50 or 60 year marriage - not a 5 or 10 year marriage.)
Hope this helps!
PS The best way to get to know a strong man without dating is to participate in the activities of a community service or a school organization.
參考: True Love Lasts - written with a character emphasis for teens through young adults,
Straight Talk About Teen Dating - written with a Christian emphasis for ages 13-19, Straight Talk About Dating - written with a Christian emphasis for ages 20 and up
2017-05-14 12:17 pm
Wow. This sounds more like a MATH WORD problem than a love related question.
If you are scared to death to ask a question to strangers you will never meet, that just means that in REAL LIFE, YOU will always be too scared to do anything anyways.
DO NOT DO THAT!!
I'm not a good looking guy, but I know that good looking guys and girls are as insecure as you are and as I WAS. Knowing that... I talk to pretty girls and make them laugh and enjoy my company. The good looking "Nice Guys" are too scared to do anything, so they just watch as the girl hang around me.
Anything and Everything you want to Change or Improve about yourself
will require PRACTICE.
The solution to your problem/dilemma is simple.
Depending on your personality, it may NOT be EASY, but it’s still Simple.
BUT YOU HAVE TO DO THE WORK!!
BECOMING POPULAR & BUILDING SELF CONFIDENCE
both REQUIRE PRACTICE.
PRACTICE is just a way to LEARN to get better.
(High School / College / New Town / New Job)
Women have the Power of Seduction. You can do what guys do, to Flirt and Hit On someone… with less effort and better results.
The key to Breaking the Ice with ANYONE,
is in the ability to make People Smile and Enjoy your company.
Always use Smiles, Humor and Compliments to approach people.
USE SMILES (to make them relax),
USE HUMOR (to make them Smile or Laugh),
USE COMPLIMENTS (to make them feel good about themselves
when they are around you)
What someone else Feels, Thinks or Wants IS NEVER your concern.
If YOU like someone YOUR HEART is what matters.
Your ONLY job/goal is to get by his side, in his company.
Once there, make him Smile, Laugh and Feel good about himself
with Compliments.
Wouldn’t you like being around someone that did that for you??
This is how you win over people. Be Likable and Be Fun.
Make this your personality and people will look for/want to be around you.
All this may sound scary to you,
but aren't you already scared anyway…
And probably sick of being YOU. (the way you are)
CHANGE will Always Be Uncomfortable…
until it becomes the way you do things.
Practice is about FAILING, until You Get Better.
DO NOT be afraid to Practice.
Practice is just taking BABY STEPS, until it becomes Who You Are.
Learn to Joke with people.
It shows a sense of humor as they smile in your company.
Example: "I heard the other day that TIME IS MONEY.
Would you like to spend some with me?"
If they ask "Time or Money?" You SMILE and say. "YES."
IMPROVE YOUR POPULARITY and chances are,
The Guy You Want, Will Find You.
If you don't start PRACTICING this now, you will lose out on many other
opportunities (Guys) in the future.
The Players call it "Having Game."
CONFIDENCE is not about Succeeding. It's about NOT BEING AFRAID,
to Step Up, whether you get Accepted or Rejected.
After you get Accepted or Rejected, YOU WILL "Quit"
Torturing yourself with Worry and Curiosity.
If you are scared to death to ask a question to strangers you will never meet, that just means that in REAL LIFE, YOU will always be too scared to do anything anyways.
DO NOT DO THAT!!
I'm not a good looking guy, but I know that good looking guys and girls are as insecure as you are and as I WAS. Knowing that... I talk to pretty girls and make them laugh and enjoy my company. The good looking "Nice Guys" are too scared to do anything, so they just watch as the girl hang around me.
Anything and Everything you want to Change or Improve about yourself
will require PRACTICE.
The solution to your problem/dilemma is simple.
Depending on your personality, it may NOT be EASY, but it’s still Simple.
BUT YOU HAVE TO DO THE WORK!!
BECOMING POPULAR & BUILDING SELF CONFIDENCE
both REQUIRE PRACTICE.
PRACTICE is just a way to LEARN to get better.
(High School / College / New Town / New Job)
Women have the Power of Seduction. You can do what guys do, to Flirt and Hit On someone… with less effort and better results.
The key to Breaking the Ice with ANYONE,
is in the ability to make People Smile and Enjoy your company.
Always use Smiles, Humor and Compliments to approach people.
USE SMILES (to make them relax),
USE HUMOR (to make them Smile or Laugh),
USE COMPLIMENTS (to make them feel good about themselves
when they are around you)
What someone else Feels, Thinks or Wants IS NEVER your concern.
If YOU like someone YOUR HEART is what matters.
Your ONLY job/goal is to get by his side, in his company.
Once there, make him Smile, Laugh and Feel good about himself
with Compliments.
Wouldn’t you like being around someone that did that for you??
This is how you win over people. Be Likable and Be Fun.
Make this your personality and people will look for/want to be around you.
All this may sound scary to you,
but aren't you already scared anyway…
And probably sick of being YOU. (the way you are)
CHANGE will Always Be Uncomfortable…
until it becomes the way you do things.
Practice is about FAILING, until You Get Better.
DO NOT be afraid to Practice.
Practice is just taking BABY STEPS, until it becomes Who You Are.
Learn to Joke with people.
It shows a sense of humor as they smile in your company.
Example: "I heard the other day that TIME IS MONEY.
Would you like to spend some with me?"
If they ask "Time or Money?" You SMILE and say. "YES."
IMPROVE YOUR POPULARITY and chances are,
The Guy You Want, Will Find You.
If you don't start PRACTICING this now, you will lose out on many other
opportunities (Guys) in the future.
The Players call it "Having Game."
CONFIDENCE is not about Succeeding. It's about NOT BEING AFRAID,
to Step Up, whether you get Accepted or Rejected.
After you get Accepted or Rejected, YOU WILL "Quit"
Torturing yourself with Worry and Curiosity.
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