I don't believe in God or Jesus, do you believe I'm going to hell?

If you don't believe in the existence of God than you don't believe in your existence because EVERYTHING has a creator. As for going to hell, no you are not going to hell but if you are poor and live in the united states, than you're already in hell.

Your lack of belief is enough to keep you out of heaven. Being married to a Believer, you reap the rewards on Earth that she does, but heaven requires personal belief in the Lord, Jesus Christ. She was given to be an example to follow in faith.

We all go to "hell" . "Hell" (sheol, hades) means the grave of mankind.
The Bible does not teach the religious lies of immortal soul and eternal torment in hell. It teaches that God is love.

If you have any love for her at all you would want there to be a place where both of you can be together forever.

There is.

(I was raised as a Catholic)

God says several times in the Bible that if we seek Him with our whole heart and soul, then He'll reveal Himself to us.
There's also a place in the New Testament where a man doubted Jesus' ability to heal his son. Jesus asked him, "what do you mean, if I can? All things are possible with God," and the man cried out, "I do believe! Help me with my disbelief (or doubt)!" So again if you ask God for help with your doubt, and search for Him and His response to your requests for help, He'll respond in ways that knock out your doubt completely. :)

As for your lack of belief, I'm confused by your question here as to whether or not your "lack" of belief enough to get you into heaven. You need to know Jesus personally to go where He lives (which is Heaven) when you die in this life. Granted, if you have even just a LITTLE bit of faith, then God can work with you with that, but you need to recognize that Heaven's not the main goal, but God - when you enter into a relationship with God, you get God, and you can only receive this by receiving Jesus.

God never bothers who believe Him. God cannot watch each and every human being at the same moment. That's why He had created the spirits to watch, guide and determine the destiny of the human beings from their daily activities, talks and thoughts too. Your past determines your present and your present determines your future. God has given freewill to all creatures including human beings. According to this, all human beings have all right to live a life as they wish. But if it happens to be bad and hurts someone, they have to face the consequences. These consequences are created by spirits. It's a natural system. After death no one lives in any form. Heaven and hell are only for spirits. Spirits are separate elements. A human being is not a single spirit. A human being during his/her life time is living with many spirits which have joined one by one since birth. They are knowledge, skills, feelings, emotions, interests and everything. Even thoughts are not your own. For example, when you want to take a decision on a subject, one after another the spirits think and you just listen, choose or reject the ideas which they transmit to your mind through your brain in the form of thoughts. A human being is just a robot made of flesh, bones, tissues etc., and a toy of the spirits for their games.

You'll end up going to the same place as your wife: nowhere!

You got to believe in your HEART from the start. Only God can get you to Heaven, there is no bus ticket or plane ticket to paradise. If you reject God, you are responsible. We are all sinners and have all lost our perfect concept of God and THAT is why we, as limited humans, have all these different religions. YOU have to make the choice. God answered too many prayers of mine to not be real!!

If there is no God, how could there BE a Heaven to get to?

Why yes I do. (Don't believe in the liberal hippy view that all "good' people go to heaven, when a verse states no human is good)