How can i tell if my mom is verbally abusing my dad? What is verbal abuse?

Verbal abuse is described as a negative defining statement to an individual (in this case your Dad) or about the individual. Equally, by withholding any response and completely ignoring the existence of the person. Verbal abuse includes some of the following: abusive anger, name calling, ordering, threatening, undermining, chronic forgetting, blocking and diverting. If you truly feel your Mom is behaving in such a manner towards your Dad, reach out to family and extended family, and share your concerns.

if hes being very rude to her and cursing and calling her names, thats verbal abuse

Besides providing zero detail, what's truly problematic about this situation is that you see your mother as a villain and your father as a defenseless victim. You should speak with them directly about the how way they communicate and treat each other is affecting you.

I can almost guarantee she is. It's a symptom of something called marriage.

Ease drop on their conversation example of verbal abuse is (**** you)

Saying them not kindly things