People think I'm a pushover/weak and need advice.?
2017-01-22 6:53 pm
Althoughout my career as a student I've always been told that I was a weak person. Everyone thinks I'm overly nice just because "nobody has a problem with me" even though I'm very quiet and keep to myself so how would they know anything about me?Are they making the implication that because I am quiet that I have to be nice and then they start making other assumptions about you...in retrospect when people say things about me or to me I just don't have a comeback so it's better to say nothing than to say something idiotic. This has also led to other individuals thinking I'm stupid and a coward/cannot fight back physically. I have no real friends as the few people I do associate with treat me like crap and look down on me because they think all the same things. I might not be the most skilled fighter but I'm a firm believer in an eye for an eye , if someone puts their hands on you you should definitely fight back. I guess I can attribute that to being small though. However if I assert myself now( it's hard because I have low self esteem and for the longest time felt I'd deserved this negative treatment) that no one will take me seriously. What do I do?
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2017-01-22 7:34 pm
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It appears underneath you want so many things, but not willing to go out & get them, hence the low self-esteem, leading you into thinking low of yourself, for not having these things.The only way to fix that is to start pursuing the things you want, for you'll find out if its worth the effort or not.
Don't look at what others have & wish for it, they show if off because they really don't understand how to enjoy it other than showing-off, & people like you get depressed for not having something that's either in-enjoyable or very over-rated.
Do the things you like, i'm sure you have an opportunity, it'll take away the ridiculousness that your mind is in.
2017-01-22 7:21 pm
Listen to how other people stand up for themselves; sharp comebacks, intelligence, wit, bluff. you should have a lot of different things you can say to stand up for yourself. but you don't say anything. it's infuriating to be around someone so weak, that's why people end up avoiding you, making up things about you and even hating you. it's all in your tone of voice. no one is going to fight your battles for you. you have to find that self respect and spunk, so you can let people know (verbally) your existence is just as valid as theirs.
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