My parents are working on my last nerves, what do I do?
2017-01-11 3:40 am
I'm an 18 year old girl. My mother thinks it's still okay to spank me. They have so many skeletons in their closet, I'm surprised there wasn't a zombie apocalypse in our house yet. They divorced recently and my mom constantly compares me to my dad even though she knows I hate it (she told me I'm just like my dad the day after we found out they are getting a divorce). They constantly tell me my 16 year old sister is so much better than me and should have been the oldest, even though I've told them a thousand times I hate it when they say things like that. They never punish my sister. Like ever. I, on the other hand, get punished a lot, sometimes with no good reason (and no, I'm not exaggerating). Luckily I'm moving out soon, but they will still expect me to visit them regularly. What do I do?
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2017-01-11 3:58 am
confront them, it seems your mother is going through alot of stress right now, mabye if your try to help her and understand her and her emotions, she can do the same for you
2017-01-11 3:51 am
You're 18. So go apply for a job and an apartment and move out. Or get a job, and with the money you earn take your mom to a fancy restaurant and talk it over, pay the $100 restaurant bill, and be happy.
Don't yell. Don't fight. Don't give her the silent treatment. Avoid phrases like "you always" or "you never" and instead use "when you do [action], it makes me fell [emotion]" If she tries to get on your nerves stay calm. Act like an adult. And just keep in mind that either way, whether you reconcile with your mom or not this is only temporary. So act professional until you get it solved.
Be willing to give and take a little. Be ready you accept any apology, and try to make sure you're doing things right. If you slip up accept you didn't follow the rules and apologize. That's not the moment to discuss if the rules should exist or apply because you'll just end up fighting. Humility will fix relationships far better than you'd think.
Instead of taking things personal, try to see why your mom acts the way she does. Maybe she's under a lot of stress and is taking it out on you. Now that might not be right, but try to be understanding.
Don't yell. Don't fight. Don't give her the silent treatment. Avoid phrases like "you always" or "you never" and instead use "when you do [action], it makes me fell [emotion]" If she tries to get on your nerves stay calm. Act like an adult. And just keep in mind that either way, whether you reconcile with your mom or not this is only temporary. So act professional until you get it solved.
Be willing to give and take a little. Be ready you accept any apology, and try to make sure you're doing things right. If you slip up accept you didn't follow the rules and apologize. That's not the moment to discuss if the rules should exist or apply because you'll just end up fighting. Humility will fix relationships far better than you'd think.
Instead of taking things personal, try to see why your mom acts the way she does. Maybe she's under a lot of stress and is taking it out on you. Now that might not be right, but try to be understanding.
2017-01-11 4:12 am
Move out...don't visit as often as they would like. Trust me, putting space between you and them will make it easier for you to deal with.
2017-01-11 9:45 am
i would just move out and if they want you to visit tell them to keep theyre attitudes at home
2017-01-11 3:54 am
you are 18 so you can do as you please. your first step has to be moving out. until then, living in their house and all you are subject to their rules. once you move out, you can visit them if you want to, and not if you see no reason in doing so.
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