what is wrong with my parents more or less mainly whats wrong with my dad?

theyre just being lazy, maybe you should move out so you dont have to come home to that

Parents do this because you are a full grown women and need to have your priorities, your parents work all day and make money, so if they ask for a few favors thats okay, just do them. And its not being lazy when they take the day off, sometimes they need a break, they are older and cant get around as easy. For the second reason, parents argue, and as they get older they get crabbier. Once you move out they will have less stress and be happier. Just help your parents out, cause someday they wont be around anymore.

It is very difficult to follow something that is all one sentence and is unpunctuated. Something brings you to your second question, but you don't seem to ask a first one! "at my house I am 18" - how old are you elsewhere? Try to put yourself in our shoes if you would like us to help.

Here are some general suggestions I make to younger teens in case you might get some helpful ideas from them. Ask to have a serious discussion with your parents about how they see things panning out in the coming months and years. It needs to be fairly rational, so if one of you becomes too emotional (e.g. angry) it would be best to time out and try again another time. Prepare in advance what you would like to say and ask: write a plan, even.

As you reach each birthday, for example, or each new school year, what rights, freedoms and responsibilities will you have? Chores, pocket money, curfews, dating, etc. will all come into it, obviously. You can't really expect something for nothing, so think about what you can put into the family and household as part of your negotiations as to what you can get.

If you are to grow into a responsible adult, it must be a gradual process: if they keep you wrapped up in cotton wool and then suddenly let you out of the box at eighteen, you won't have enough experience to know how to handle it.

That said, your parent(s) is/are responsible for your safety and welfare during this time: no doubt they love you and they themselves have the experiences you don't yet. Seeing things on t.v. and hearing your friends' (exaggerated?) stories aren't quite the same.

If they don't want to do this, ask them if they will please consider a plan and talk again in a week or so. All plans need to be a little flexible, as unexpected things can happen, of course.

Hopefully this will show that you have a maturing attitude to your family and your life.

As for your parents fighting, buy them a book like Dr Phil McGraw's excellent, Relationship Rescue for Christmas. (I wish I got commission, as I recommend it to so many people!). As he writes in the book, it isn't only or people whose relationships are in trouble. There are other books, of course.

Have a good one!

Good Luck!