SHOULD I DATE A GUY WITH A KID? HE S 18 I M 17?

2016-11-18 9:45 pm
He came out and told me that he has a son with his ex girlfriend of 5 years who now lives in California. The baby mama has full custody of the son and the guy i m talking to doesn t keep in contact with the son or the baby mama. What problems could this bring into my life? What are the pros and cons I should consider before I hop into a relationship with this guy because we re about to make things official any minute.
P.S it doesn t bother me that he has a kid and im a very support and chill girl so just consider that too

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2016-11-18 10:01 pm
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WOW GIRL!! To have a kid at 18 is one thing, to not be a responsibile father is another.
You might be flattered at this point to know that he likes you, but this is not how it actually is. Someone who would leave his girlfriend of 5 years and not have any feelings towards her, not not even needing the time to recover from a relationship is just ridiculous.
If a guy would leave his kid and be happy to go out with another girl, you should know that he'll do exactly the same thing to you. You'll get pregant with his kid at a very young age, and you'll need to take the responsibility if the child all by yourself. You wouldn't have anyone to share you life with, and he'll go on and do the same to another girl, and completely forget you and your kid.
Place yourself in that situation, would you like it?
Remember that the girl who has his son was at one point just like you, she felt complimented when that guy wanted to be with her, but now, she's achieved nothing. So at the end of the day, it's your choice, but if can just for a moment take this into consideration, learn to step away from him he'll use you and throw you in the trash just like he did with her.
You'll love this short term infatuation, but your life isn't worth sacrificing for a dude that is worth absolutely nothing. Take care sweety.
參考: I'm a 20 yo girl :)
2016-11-18 9:51 pm
Girlfriend of 5 years, he's 18, so they were 13 when they got together and have a kid? Real winner here, girl.

It's your life, but for the love of GOD, please please PLEASE practice SAFE SEX and don't end up in the same situation, no matter how much he tries to sweet talk you.
2016-11-18 9:52 pm
no. find someone who's never had a child, and is your age. but, i would focus on school first, and seeing if you want to go to college, join the military, get a job, or a combination.
2016-11-18 9:50 pm
Dating a guy with a kid from a previous relationship is a challenge even in adulthood.

But at 17, you're WAY too young for such baggage.

I would walk away. You're in NO position right now to be a surrogate step-mother. Forget about him and find someone else.
2016-11-18 9:47 pm
Watch him get you pregnant and then leave... Lol he's not a man he's a p*ssy.
2017-02-17 11:13 am
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2016-11-19 4:58 am
Never date a deadbeat loser. No matter what your or his age is. Seriously, why are your standards so low? I wouldn't even want to talk to someone who sees nothing wrong with turning his back on his own child.
2016-11-19 12:48 am
Well dating is fine, I mean he might be boring after a while and you move on.

But if you two get serious I would in your place like to know why he doesnt have a father-son relationship and also if he did anything bad to her, like, was she 13 aswell when she got pregnant?

You should also know that these kids some day wanna find out what their bio-father is like. But if that doesnt scare you goo ahead.

I have s friend who is very happy with the two kids of her boyfriend and dhe has a good relationship with the kids mother too. She said I am parttime mommy of two and didnt even have to be pregnant.

It can be a good deal.

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