Why do I get mad when people like stuff I like?
2016-11-07 12:49 pm
I've noticed when people like stuff I like I get really angry. Like for example this new rapper came out and when he wasn't really popular I started showing people him. They would be like he sucks, what is this shitty music. Recently the same guy just blew up now the whole country knows bout him & my friends act like they listened to him first. Basically I hate when people never wana give me credit for showing them things or telling them about what's cool. When those things do become cool it's like I don't stand out no more. I love to be the odd one out but I hate to be in the crowd. I wana be special because I know I have qualities that make me different but I hate to be grouped in with people ever since childhood I never liked that. That's probably a reason people don't like me but why should I fake something that I don't care about. That's probably a reason people don't like me either cause they think I try to hard but what's wrong with not wanting to be the social norm .......
回答 (3)
2016-11-07 4:38 pm
You are trying to get something to identify with
that is different than the crowd.
This makes you feel unique.
Instead you should feel happy that you noticed them first.
Share what you find with others and you will be well liked.
that is different than the crowd.
This makes you feel unique.
Instead you should feel happy that you noticed them first.
Share what you find with others and you will be well liked.
2016-11-07 3:23 pm
You have a very strong need to feel unique and special. You're putting far too much of your core identity into what is unique about you, to the point that you cannot enjoy things simply because you enjoy them. Basically you're allowing others to unwittingly regulate your self esteem and identity. This is incredibly unhealthy, creeping into personality disorder territory (disorders which involve deriving self esteem, self worth, and identity from others due to an inability to derive these things from within).
You can stand out and still be part of the group. This weird hipster "I like it before it was cool" is disrupting your personal and interpersonal functioning and causing you distress. It's time to discuss your identity and self esteem issues with a professional.
You don't have to be black OR white, you don't have to be apart from the crowd OR a carbon copy drone. In this case you can have your cake and eat it too. You can enjoy the things you enjoy simply because you enjoy them, and accept that you have good taste and discernment because others tend to catch on in droves. You're looking at all this from the wrong perspective. You aren't some kind of victim of sheep mentality, you're a trend-setter.
Stop identifying yourself by your niche tastes and how much you stand out. Define yourself by your actual merits, personality, and core beliefs. This hipster douchebag "I liked it before it was cool" tryhard nonconformist-at-all-costs is incredibly, painfully superficial and, again, not healthy. You are far more than abject nonconformity.
You can stand out and still be part of the group. This weird hipster "I like it before it was cool" is disrupting your personal and interpersonal functioning and causing you distress. It's time to discuss your identity and self esteem issues with a professional.
You don't have to be black OR white, you don't have to be apart from the crowd OR a carbon copy drone. In this case you can have your cake and eat it too. You can enjoy the things you enjoy simply because you enjoy them, and accept that you have good taste and discernment because others tend to catch on in droves. You're looking at all this from the wrong perspective. You aren't some kind of victim of sheep mentality, you're a trend-setter.
Stop identifying yourself by your niche tastes and how much you stand out. Define yourself by your actual merits, personality, and core beliefs. This hipster douchebag "I liked it before it was cool" tryhard nonconformist-at-all-costs is incredibly, painfully superficial and, again, not healthy. You are far more than abject nonconformity.
2016-11-07 3:10 pm
What's disturbing (and yet true) is that they didn't like the rapper UNTIL he became popular.
Most people care a great deal about what is popular. Some only care a little, like us.
We sll also have the thought that WE are more special than others.
Again, some more and some less.
But every human has it.
It's not about your feelings, it's about what you DO with them.
Most people care a great deal about what is popular. Some only care a little, like us.
We sll also have the thought that WE are more special than others.
Again, some more and some less.
But every human has it.
It's not about your feelings, it's about what you DO with them.
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