Hi, I'm 19 and have been with my boyfriend for going on 6 months. I've known him for 5 years. I'll just jump right into it; he keeps asking for me to give him head. It's almost like he's trying to guilt trip me, he brings it up all of the time. It's not that I'm against it, I plan on doing it eventually. But it goes back to this: My first sexual encounter (doing everything but having sex) was forced. When I'm thinking about going down on him, all I can think about is when I was forced to do it. He knows this. It just makes me uncomfortable. I'll get there, I'm just not there yet. He even told me that other guys wouldn't stay with someone this long without getting head. That really made me feel like ****.
So, what can I do? Do you have advice on how I can get over this issue? Also, is it bad for him to be doing this?
Boyfriend keeps asking for oral?
2016-10-27 3:01 am
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2016-10-27 3:05 am
Hes a cad, plain and simple. He's not respectful of you or your desires. If he wants to threaten you with breaking up, call his bluff and do it for him. You can do a LOT better.
2016-10-27 3:04 am
Listen hun, you better get on it. If you don't deliver you might not have a boy friend. He'll find another girl who is just as willing to give as he is to recieve. What you're doing now is giving the poor guy blue balls. You're actually hurting him. You don't wanna hurt your boy friend do you?
2016-10-27 3:12 am
suck a niqqa dik sis
2016-10-27 3:06 am
He shouldn't be pressuring you at all. The fact that he told you other guys wouldn't stay this long without getting head is beyond wrong he's trying to bully you into sex. I personally wouldn't sleep with him because the two times I was pressured into sex, i was dumped pretty soon after. Those guys don't care about you, at all. Save it for a guy who does. And it's saying "those guys" because i was engaged to a guy who didn't get head from or sex from me, he just went down on me and we were together for 2 years. He enjoyed going down on me way more than him receiving. There are many guys who enjoy giving as opposed to receiving.
2016-10-27 10:10 pm
Speaking as a man, we are willing to wait for sex ...but only to a point.
Quite frankly I think 6 months is plenty of time for you to have fallen in love with the guy and start having sexual relations of various types. If you are putting out in other ways, tell him you just need more time for that aspect. But if you aren't putting out at all, you better start or you are going to lose that man.
Quite frankly I think 6 months is plenty of time for you to have fallen in love with the guy and start having sexual relations of various types. If you are putting out in other ways, tell him you just need more time for that aspect. But if you aren't putting out at all, you better start or you are going to lose that man.
2016-10-27 3:07 am
I'm gonna tell you on some real sh*t right now. DUMP HIM!
Any guy who knows a girl was sexually assaulted and uses that as guilt is an a$$hole. And if he's telling his friends that you're so bad for having a life changing experience then he's obviously bad. This doesn't sound like a good relationship and you shouldn't give him head because after that he'll want sex, which you definitely don't sound ready for. So I'm telling you to drop him and never look back
Any guy who knows a girl was sexually assaulted and uses that as guilt is an a$$hole. And if he's telling his friends that you're so bad for having a life changing experience then he's obviously bad. This doesn't sound like a good relationship and you shouldn't give him head because after that he'll want sex, which you definitely don't sound ready for. So I'm telling you to drop him and never look back
2016-10-28 1:14 am
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2016-10-27 3:31 am
he shouldn't be forcing you to do something you don't want to, especially knowing your issue. As a guy, i can relate to why he's so anxious, but let him know how long of a wait it might take, don't just say soon or in the future. That could mean forever.
2016-10-27 4:18 am
Do you know what? Any guy who asks for head is an idiot, has no clue what being a gentleman is about, and doesn't realize it's NEVER up to him whether he gets oral sex at all. If a girl wants to give a guy oral sex, she will... and without being asked, prodded, or begged to do it.
There is nothing more PATHETIC than a guy who asks for oral sex.
Don't let him make you feel like shlt. He's behaving terribly, whining, moaning and feeling sorry for himself.
I have been with the same guy for five years. Guess what? He's never asked me for oral. He's never asked me to do anything at all. We talk about what we might like in regular conversation. He's never asked... if i decide I want to try something he talks about, i do, and i do it when I want to. Believe me, we have a sex life that would make most women blush. But again, he'd never ask, beg, whine or prod me to do anything at all. If i want to do something new, I do. If not, i don't. And he would never expect me to do anything that makes me feel uncomfortable.
Men need to understand something about sex..... whether he gets sex, oral, pegging, tied up, a leash put on, or anything else, is not up to him. The woman is always in the driver's seat when it comes to sex.
ALWAYS.
So keep this in mind. And i'd lose this guy you're asking about He's nothing but immature and disrespectful.
There is nothing more PATHETIC than a guy who asks for oral sex.
Don't let him make you feel like shlt. He's behaving terribly, whining, moaning and feeling sorry for himself.
I have been with the same guy for five years. Guess what? He's never asked me for oral. He's never asked me to do anything at all. We talk about what we might like in regular conversation. He's never asked... if i decide I want to try something he talks about, i do, and i do it when I want to. Believe me, we have a sex life that would make most women blush. But again, he'd never ask, beg, whine or prod me to do anything at all. If i want to do something new, I do. If not, i don't. And he would never expect me to do anything that makes me feel uncomfortable.
Men need to understand something about sex..... whether he gets sex, oral, pegging, tied up, a leash put on, or anything else, is not up to him. The woman is always in the driver's seat when it comes to sex.
ALWAYS.
So keep this in mind. And i'd lose this guy you're asking about He's nothing but immature and disrespectful.
2016-10-27 3:09 am
Anyone that tries to "talk you into" something you are not comfortable with, makes it seem like it is YOUR fault you won't do something, uses guilt trips, and then belittles you about it is not worth it. Why would someone who wants you act this way? He wants the head, that's for sure. I agree with Brian. If he wants to threaten a breakup because you don't want to do something he wants you to do, tell him not to bother, YOU break up with him. This is a form of manipulation, not love or affection.
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