I walked out on 2 1/2 years relationship, which I once considered the best I have ever had. My bf that once loved me so much became condescending and belittled me to the point where I was depressed. So one day he started harassing me, I simply packed everything up and left.
Ever since, he has been calling me, apologizing, and talking about how he was wrong. He said he wants to spend the rest of his life with me. I left him hanging for a good 2 months and he is still insistent.
In the meantime, a man I had a HUGE crush on 7 yrs ago added me on Facebook and started talking. It was random that he suddenly decides to message me now. I always wanted to be with him. We dated a few times but drifted apart for an unknown reason.
We met up to talk over food and a couple drinks 2 weeks ago. We talked almost every day. I feel like I got feelings back for him. I told my ex/bf that I want to remain single, but he insists I give him a chance to make this work. I still love him, so I agreed. I was scared to hookup with my crush and end up hurting them both. I also didn’t want to be seeing both men at the same time.
I told my crush that I am in a complicated situation with the ex/bf. He was cool about it, but seems really sad.
I went out with my bf and he seems much better, but I still think about the crush and how I want to give him a chance. I feel bad!
Should I still hang out with my crush as friends and see what happens? Am I just complicating everything?
Any thoughts/opinions?
What to do when boyfriend wants to "work things out" but I am crushing on another guy I always liked?
2016-10-17 6:53 pm
回答 (6)
2016-10-17 7:08 pm
Okay, you got a mess. First, don't go back to your ex. He abused you and made you depressed. He doesn't deserve you.
Second, I think your crush also likes you. You should go out with him.
Second, I think your crush also likes you. You should go out with him.
2016-10-17 7:02 pm
You've already been down that road with the ex and know where it leads. People just don't change that much. I'm sure when you first got together he was much like he is now, but its an act. The real him will reappear soon enough if you take him back. In the meantime you are missing out on the opportunity with the crush. He is not going to wait while you figure out the ex is wrong for you.
2016-10-17 6:56 pm
I think you should become the girlfriend of the crush because this boyfriend is obvioulsy very controllive and you dont want that. Youll never know what good things can happen with this new crush if you keep on being with the ex who you already know as a boyfriend, just letting you know. I would love to know the update to this as well
2016-11-12 7:12 pm
i think you should become the girlfriend of the crush 'cause this boyfriend is obvioulsy very controllive and you dont want that......... youll never know what good things can happen with this new crush if you keep on being with the ex who you already know as a boyfriend, just letting you know......... i would love to know the update to this as well
2017-03-18 4:15 pm
okay, you got a mess......... first, don't go back to your ex......... he abused you and made you depressed......... he doesn't deserve you.........
second, i think your crush also likes you......... you should go out with him.........
second, i think your crush also likes you......... you should go out with him.........
2016-10-18 12:32 am
You have a crush. Stop feeling sorry for the ex. If you cared that much for him, the crush would not matter. Stop stringing the ex along. Move on. He has not changed that much.
2016-10-17 6:58 pm
I think if you commit to the boyfriend then you have to leave the crush alone. It's not fair to anyone to do it any other way. You know good and well that your question "Should I still hang out with my crush as friends and see what happens?" is just asking for permission to a) play with fire, b) mislead your boyfriend, and c) have your cake and eat it too.
You don't get to do that as I imagine if the situation were reversed, you wouldn't want your boyfriend hanging out with his crush to "see what happens".
You don't get to do that as I imagine if the situation were reversed, you wouldn't want your boyfriend hanging out with his crush to "see what happens".
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