I can't make friends and I'm severely depressed, I don't know if I want to live anymore?

Life seems unworkable right now and your problems appear circular however you just need to look for a win in one tiny area to break the cycle. Many parts of the story are missing from the above question so it's hard to give you a whole lot. You say that you've had depression for four years so I can only assume that it's been diagnosed. If it has then something is missing in terms of intervention. If you haven't tried medication then maybe you should consider it, and if you have and it hasn't worked then try something else or see someone else. If you've tried counselling/psychotherapy and it hasn't worked then try another therapist and technique. For someone with entrenched depression then longer term CBT or Interpersonal Therapy with a clinical psychologist would be the best choice. You may also consider hypnosis as an adjunct as I've found that gets quick results while the other therapy starts to work. It's horrible when things are so bleak that you are considering suicide and I hope that you're able to find the strength to stick it out and seek the help that's out there. Your social skills are there, the situation is reversible, they are just slightly out of reach right now. All the best.

I'm sorry you're struggling so much. It is hard to live with depression, especially when you feel alone. Still as desperate as your situation feels, I feel like there are solutions out there for you, and I'm glad you've chosen to reach out for help because it's not always easy to do. Are you seeing a doctor about your depression? Even if you've had it for awhile and are being treated, your brain chemistry changes, especially around your teen years, and sometimes medications need to be tweaked or changed. I know it's hard while all this is being figured out, but most people do well on medication.

As for making friends, I know from recent experience that making and keeping friends when you're teen/young adult is challenging, even without all the issues you're facing. Believe me, you're not alone in this. Does your school have a guidance counselor, and if so, do you think you could talk with him/her? You could even talk with a teacher whose class you enjoy. A counselor would know about the dynamic of your school and could probably give you some advice and/or help in making friends. For instance, does your school have any clubs, academic, social, religious, or otherwise? Clubs are a great way to meet people who share your interests. Now I now you said nothing interests you anymore, but I feel sure that there's at least something that isn't totally adverse to you. I was in garden club in school, even though I really don't have much of an interest in gardening, but it turned out to be pretty fun. Sometimes you just have to put yourself out there.

I hope you get the help you need and that things get better for you. Truly I do. You're still young and I know you have a purpose. Here's an article titled "When You Feel Hopeless" that may help you, as well: https://goo.gl/8Dxyzk All my best.

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Firstly, you are not alone in having depression and certainly not alone in having crap relationship skills. That doesn't mean that your life is worthless: it is often the case that social awkwardness is accompanied by unusual mental abilities or creativity.

Let's take the depression first. Depression can start for many reasons: quite often these fall into 2 categories: genetic inheritance, and bad diet.

There are medications one can take for genetically inherited neurological imbalances, and if you have inherited depressive tendencies, those may work for you.

Diet/allergy induced depression: The brain is at the mercy of gut bacteria (believe it or not), and a diet rich in refined sugars has been shown to cause bacteria in the gut to fight each other by producing toxins. These toxins have been linked with depression and mood swings. If you have a food allergy in the background (such as gluten allergy or Lactose intolerance), or if you have IBS or some other bowel condition, the bacteria in your gut maybe producing more toxins than is healthy. Those toxins get absorbed through the gut wall and into the blood stream where they have systemic effects on both the brain and body. Often by modulating diet, it is possible to reduce depression/fantasies etc.

However, after the brain has been depressed for many months, a change occurs. Brain cells (neurons) get altered: their DNA gets tagged with a methyl group in various places within the nucleus of your neurons (DNA methylation). This has the effect of maintaining the gene expression patterns symptomatic of depression (for the long-term). For a long time, doctors could do little to reverse this DNA methylation; however, the good news for you is that a treatment is possible to break your mind out of the depression. The treatment available is called Ketamine. Recent research shows that it reverses the DNA methylation in neurons, breaking the continual depression. I would suggest you look into this as a start (http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/health-26647738).

There are other treatments you can access that might complement the ketamine treatment, and help keep you from falling into depression again: e.g., CBT.

Relationship skills and social awkwardness fall into the category of Autism spectrum disorders. That's scientific jargon for those whose mental processes work a little differently than the average human being. It would be worth taking some test for Autism i.e., for Aspergers syndrome to ascertain if you have some traits which might be under pinning your social issues. Knowing about such traits is the first step to developing coping strategies that can be very successful in helping you form social relationships.

Last but not least, we turn to romantic relationships. Learning about relationship psychology might help you develop understanding and skills that would be valuable to you. I suggest you try: How to succeed with Men---Ron Louis and David Copeland (assuming you're heterosexual, if not, they do a book for relating with women too). These books will give you a better understanding of the reality of relationships, and a pragmatic approach to developing confidence gradually.

I think you have lots of potential once you relax and focus on dealing with each issue in turn. I can tell you that many people wait allot longer than 18 years old to tackle their social problems and depression issues. You are already ahead in sharing your problems and seeking a way forward.

I want to impress upon you the importance of dealing with the physical (neuro-physiological) issues caused by your long-term depression. Seeking treatment ---e.g., ketamine---would vastly improve matters for you, specifically if the DNA in your brain cells have become hyper-methylated

Choose to be happy. Life has lots of ups and downs. Don' t injure yourself! It is hard work to be happy. God put you here for a reason. He could care less if you have any friends. Love yourself! It is a selfish act when one chooses suicide. Also an insult to your divine maker. Find a way to volunteer or help others less fortunate cause that will make you feel needed, & wanted. You are valuable.

There are various therapies that can increase your social skills. Have you considered seeing a psychologist? Maybe join a group of other people who lack socials skills and try communicatingwith them/discussing problems? There are many options, suicide is never the correct answer.

Hi! I don t have such good social skills , I am an 18 boy, and sometimes i feel depressed my self. Even though, I am trying with all my strenght not be sad, not to give up even if it is really. Do u want to contact me? Probably it could be good for both

Get into the Personal Success Institute Basic....you have programs that are running you that you are now unconsciously following. Bottom line is this what you believe you create-...your self talk is creating more and more of the same.

( http://www.shadhelmstetter.com/selftalk )

( http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=M1kW0bHtY38 )

What you believe is what you create
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That being said between the age of 0-18 95% of all of our beliefs, ideas and how we see the world are already in place----and then we take those beliefs and ideas and start creating our world--so all of the subconscious hurts that we have accumulated for those 18years ---we re-create in our life over and over again.

The only way to change this is through going back and re-framing those memories. If you "always" have shame fear, depression or anger then it probably originated from beliefs that you formed between - and 18 ---there are multiple resources out there to help you figure this out and move forward. PSI is one.