How do I leave my house?!!!!?

Sorry, you have to ruin your relationship to get away from them.

that's crazzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzy. I LOVE Christian old traditions and other general traditions but u gotta have some trusted freedom otherwise u will feel like a slave.

u gotta do something, in ur case id CALL OUT GO GOD..he does miracles. id also talk to trusted family members etc or call a help line

don't worry, u seem to be calm tho. that's crazy that they follow u and get a house. :/ next time don't tell them ur address

I totally understand what you're saying. In their thinking they're protecting you but what they don't realise is how damaging it is, mentally and socially on their children (Speaking in general). I hope you find a solution. I want to say talking to your family and telling them how you feel but because I come from a similar family I'm not sure if that'll be possible for you without them taking it out of context and who knows what they make out of our conversation. Practically my answer would have been (1)communication (2)family counseling. But, you could, and this is a"dishonest" way around it; (1)say you have found a job elsewhere for 2 weeks but you will get transferred back to where your parents are and then after you move just keep delaying the"transfer". (2)say it's a job which requires relocation every month or so, they can't keep moving every month with you. HOWEVER, if they are dependent on you then you'll need to reassure your support even while you are away.

I do not understand how if you have moved to different cities they have than followed you and than forced you to live with them.

Even if they followed you to the city, why did you not just continue to keep your own apartment/house? Why did you move back in with them?

It sounds like you need to learn to put your foot down and learn how to say "NO" to them.

And as Serene E wisely noted, yup, you are going to have to damage your relationship with them if you want to live your own life.

Stop being meek and submissive. Seriously, if you move to another country, and they follow you and show up on your doorstep and say "We bought a house, you are coming with us" you can say "NO"

I know it is hard to feel like you are letting your parents down. But you really have no other option. Either you take charge of your own life, your own destiny, or you just give yourself away and be meek and do whatever they say in order to keep the peace.

I highly suggest you go to counseling to help you learn to be more assertive.

Your parents lived their lives, now it is time for YOU to live YOUR life! :-)

Get a job, move, and don't tell them where you live. That's easy. You can get a post office box and have mail delivered there.

And when you get the job, say, "Mom, Dad, I love you but I'll be living on my own now. Don't move because there won't be room to live with me."

Then get a one-bedroom apartment, but don't tell them where it is.

you 3 need family counseling. A therapist can get to the bottom of this. If you don't talk openly about this insanity it will never change without a big nasty falling out.