My bf doesn't buy me flowers or takes me out on dates?
2016-07-20 3:51 pm
My bf &I have been dating for several months not &only once has he giving me flowers and gave me a cute letter thanking me for coming in this life but he has NEVER taken me out on a cute day or has planed anything cute we talked about it a lot but he has never made a moveexample we have gone to the fair beach,park food places but everything was my idea I'm not expecting for him to always buy me gifts or expects me to take me out but I would really appreciate it if would do something cute for me just like I do for him when we go out I'm usually the one who drives &pays for everything and before I didn't mind it bcuz he was going thought finical struggles he got in a car accident and lost everything I was there/ been there for him since day one it was bad that I had to pay for our dinner infront of his family (which i didn't mind money is not a issue for me) now that's his back on his feet we go "half" on everything &iit sucks because he used to buy and do so much for his ex who treated him like crap And cheated on him and honestly I feel like I'm giving him everything and he can't do anything cute for me ? It's nothing me a lot I give him hints by telling him that I wouldn't mind having a picnic at apark or recivonf $5 flower would make my day lol but he doesn't do it I don't want to keep feeling him bcuz I want it come out of his heart I don't want to break up with him bcuz of this is stuff but I would love to feel approciate itWhat would you guys do? What am I doing wrong ?
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2016-07-20 5:37 pm
Why are you basing a relationship on material things, getting gifts and flowers? And if he really had an accident and lost everything, he needs to focus on getting his life back together and his financial mess.... and if he's in a financial mess, why would you expect him to spend money he doesn't have on flowers and dates?
If you two like each other, you do. There are a lot of things to do out in the world, especially in the summer time, which are free or low cost. And you shouldn't be paying for EVERYTHING either.
Try the beach, or hiking if he can do that (you said he had an accident), or art fairs, festivals, free outdoor concerts, picnics, etc. Get together with another couple for a hamburger cook out and a game of cards or something? There are a lot of inexpensive things to do out there.
What would i do? If i had a boyfriend who was in an accident and lost everything, i'd expect that he'd need time to recover physically, emotionally and financially. I have experience with this, i was in a terrible accident ten years ago and i just had my last surgery a few months ago, so i've been healing and trying to get back on my feet for ten years. Ain't easy
If you two like each other, you do. There are a lot of things to do out in the world, especially in the summer time, which are free or low cost. And you shouldn't be paying for EVERYTHING either.
Try the beach, or hiking if he can do that (you said he had an accident), or art fairs, festivals, free outdoor concerts, picnics, etc. Get together with another couple for a hamburger cook out and a game of cards or something? There are a lot of inexpensive things to do out there.
What would i do? If i had a boyfriend who was in an accident and lost everything, i'd expect that he'd need time to recover physically, emotionally and financially. I have experience with this, i was in a terrible accident ten years ago and i just had my last surgery a few months ago, so i've been healing and trying to get back on my feet for ten years. Ain't easy
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