I like this girl, and I've failed in trying to start relationships and has ended up losing all connections with these people. But this girl i really wanna start a great relationship with. I got her number, what kind of things could I say/ talk about that doesn't give the impression that I'm too nice, but not too mean either. I wanna make the impression that I'm not just another nice guy. wanna show her that u like her, but not too much to the point where I'm too nice.
Thanks and wish me luck!
How to find the perfect balance between too nice and too mean?
2016-06-25 12:21 am
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2016-06-25 12:33 am
Don't show blind interest, because that makes it look like you only like her bcuz she's more sexually attractive/higher value than you are.
Also don't insult her, bcuz that makes you look like a dbag.
Instead do the following:
1) be funny all the time- and confident. Make her laugh.
2) ask her questions about herself. Get to know who she actually is, not what she looks like.
3) Yes compliment- but compliment her like an alpha male would. For example "damn girl. Love that butt." And smack it, while confidently biting your lip and give her dominant but sexy eye contact. Or confidently walk up to her and say "you look good!" And smile, start up a convo that way.
4) also tease her- find a funny nickname for her. For example if her name is Megan and she's messy, you could call her "Messy Meg". Or if she's a bad driver, be like "get to school safely today? No accidents? I mean I can call a paramedic if you ran over somebody on the way here, it's not a problem"
Also don't insult her, bcuz that makes you look like a dbag.
Instead do the following:
1) be funny all the time- and confident. Make her laugh.
2) ask her questions about herself. Get to know who she actually is, not what she looks like.
3) Yes compliment- but compliment her like an alpha male would. For example "damn girl. Love that butt." And smack it, while confidently biting your lip and give her dominant but sexy eye contact. Or confidently walk up to her and say "you look good!" And smile, start up a convo that way.
4) also tease her- find a funny nickname for her. For example if her name is Megan and she's messy, you could call her "Messy Meg". Or if she's a bad driver, be like "get to school safely today? No accidents? I mean I can call a paramedic if you ran over somebody on the way here, it's not a problem"
參考: 5) if she disrespects YOU though, (and she's not just joking around), you need to cut the friendly act and instantly call her out on it. For example if she makes plans and flakes on you, be like "wowwww my friends said some girls were like this and I didn't believe them". She'll be like "nobody flaked on you before?" And you could be like "no, most girls just have enough respect and self-responsibility to not do that. That's inconvenient to me. Please don't do it again" and get her to say "sorry I won't do it again". Etc.
Don't put up with BS. Make it clear you're a great guy long as she's playing ball to your tune. But if she's being defiant and rude or disrespectful, NIP IT IN THE BUD IMMEDIATELY, so it doesn't become a pattern.
2016-06-25 12:33 am
You are so focused on being a certain way - not too nice or too mean - that you're losing sight of being yourself. Hopefully you are kind, considerate, empathetic, fun, confident, energetic - all those good things. Meanness, in any amount, is not a good thing in a relationship. Don't confuse that with knowing your own mind, not being used or taken advantage of or having that bit of assertiveness. That's a good thing, and not mean at all.
As for what to talk about, find out more about her, what she's into and how she feels about things. Ask lots of questions and tell her how you feel about things too. Hopefully you'll have a lot in common.
As for what to talk about, find out more about her, what she's into and how she feels about things. Ask lots of questions and tell her how you feel about things too. Hopefully you'll have a lot in common.
2016-06-25 4:34 am
What's wrong with behaving like a gentleman? This is what decent girls expect. I know i do. I dont put up with someone who isn't "nice" or decent.
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