I love my wife but I'm in love with another woman.i have had no contact in months but she's still my first thought in my mind what to do?

Fix what's missing in your marriage, with your wife, so the woman you are married to is the primary one in your thoughts, not one you haven't seen in months and didn't take vows with.

I'm not sure exactly what you are asking. Are you asking if you should talk to the other woman and see where it goes? Are you asking if you should leave your wife all together? You have to ask yourself which one is more important to you. You also have to honor the vows and the commitment you made to your WIFE. In order for you to even be in love with another woman suggest that you must have opened yourself up for that to happen. Maybe you knew her before you married your wife. Maybe you met her someway and you two got a little "too close" I don't know. But you already failed. You entertained the thought of another woman and now you claim you are in "love." What a shame. If you can't shake whatever this is, then I would come clean to your wife, if I were you. Remember, that Karma is VERY real. If you wouldn't want it done to you then don't do it to anyone else.

Do not follow your heart this is not a freakin Disney movie!!!!! This is real life you need to separate yourself from this woman your feeling, "In love with" and confess to your wife you have put a wedge between you and her and your wedding vows. Please keep your promise to your wife! Emotions are very misleading and can cause a lot of bad things to happen but your marriage is real and if you resolve this you will be rewarded!!!

1/. It's not uncommon to want what you don't have!
2/. Fantasy & Reality are often very different things - you are creating a fantasy image of what your life might be like with another women but it's just that = A fantasy!

For yourself:
Imagine how you would feel if you divorced your wife and you were now with this other woman. Would you be happier? If yes, go to this woman, it's kinder to your wife too having having you as an empty shell where your head and heart are elsewhere. If no, problem solved.

For your wife:
Love is also loyalty, if I were your wife, I would want that you confess this to me and we tackle this together. Secret lose its power when exposed to light, as long as it is in the dark, it holds you prisoner.

If you don't pursue it, it will just die off. I suggest try giving more attention to your wife by spending more time with her. Take her out of town and try to see if you can relieve moments when you were so inlove with her.
I also deal with crushes here and there like you. However, when my mind get distracted by them, I think of something else to do. It is hard but keep in mind marriage is hard work.
Try not to put yourself in that position next time because it's hard to rebuild what's bedn broken. Marriage is hard work and it is fragile. We all have cracks in our marriage. But a lot of us manage to patch holes earlier before anymore damage is done.
You can do this. Focus on your wife and keep.yourself busy. This girl will remain special to you but you'll know soon enough she's not just right for you. Right people come in the right moment. Falling inlove with the right person shouldn't give you worries. Best of luck.

Well, let's see. If you're in love with another Woman, Then your heart cannot truly love your wife. With that said, take a step back, take a long hard look into yourself. What does your heart say?
I believe there is something currently missing in your marriage, however if you have such a strong feeling for another, then I would say to Follow your Heart. Always follow your heart. To do anything else would surely be hurtful in the long run for both you and your wife.
Best Wishes,

For your own sense of self-respect, you have to be fair to your wife. Turn it around -- your wife tells you that she loves you, but she can't stop thinking about another man and doesn't know what to do about it... Feels lovely, doesn't it?

This isn't about your wife or the other woman. It's about you and who you decide to be.

So. Either you don't love your wife enough to continue in the marriage and want to let her go to find someone who will appreciate her as you don't, or you want to make your marriage work. I can't know the answer to that. Only you do. Just know that you have a decision to make and whatever it is, you'll have to live with it.

If you do love your wife, then you relegate the other woman to fantasy (fantasy is fine if you can keep it in its place), you get some professional help from a counselor to see why it is you're so fascinated by this other person, and you work on your relationship with your wife. Spend time with her, Get to know her again. Let her get to know you.

Affairs are often about a person's boredom with himself and his life, not his or her spouse. Maybe your life needs a bit of shaking up, just enough to keep things interesting.

Fantasy is fine. It serves a function. If you can understand that many fantasies, most of them, aren't meant to be lived out. They're meant to be enjoyed in the privacy of your own mind. Don't jump off the roof with a pillowcase as a parachute -- you can't fly. But you can enjoy the daydream. Then put it away and get back to living in the real world.

Don't have an affair. You love your wife.

Did you ever feel the way you do about this woman for your wife, when the relationship was new? If so, I wouldn't leave your wife. If your love for the other woman is way stronger and deeper than you ever felt for your wife than the relationship might really be something special.