Where can I find a decent man?

One: don't treat men as a commodity and Resource.
Two: work on your self it is the highest common denominator in your life and confidence attracts both sex's so don't be afraid to make the first move.
three: become more independent, only traditionalist's and abusers want house wife's.
Good luck...no one wants to marry since it leads to economic ruin.

Without more details it's impossible to say if you are doing anything "wrong" or not ----- from what I can see most people have lists or images or think age is important ------ there are "decent" guys all around you ----- the ones you ignore for whatever reason you don't even bother to talk to us ----- i suggest you ignore any image any list and as long as you are over the local age of consent ignore age ----- don't do anything you don't want to do all these other suggestions are interesting but if you don't feel comfortable doing them its a waste of time ----- don't fake enjoyment people can see that and if you are only doing something to meet someone why bother????

Take up volunteering; you will meet a wide circle of caring people.
AND will gain real fulfilment.

Go to places besides bars. Join a coed sports team or take a class. LivingSocial tends to have singles events too. Also, don't be so quick to get physical with guys.