How to tell a child her daddy is not her biological father?

The people in your town sound like certified rednecks. Who asks about a child's father as if its any of their business? Oh, yes, a moron who has the sense god gave a duck.

There is likely a lot of information online for help. And a child psychologist can also give you valuable help with this sort of thing. But at 3 years old? She knows nothing about reproduction, is innocent and wouldn't know what you were talking about.

Psychologists are trained to relate to children on their level and talk with them in a way they understand... so getting advice from one is a good place to start. You will get a good idea about when and how to talk with your daughter as the result

best wishes.

One day, she will probably notice those comments herself and will probably ask one of you. I wouldn t treat it as anything big- to me, a parent is the one that raised you and your family as best they can. Tell that to her, though she ll need to know her genetics one day too. I would slam those people who ask for her "real daddy". But since you live in a small town and probably want to keep at least neutral relationships with everyone, just tell them it s none of their business. Or tell them who you feel is the true father.

Wait until she is old enough to understand..

Wait until she's older before you tell her - 10 or more. Considering that your husband has been the only father figure in her life, I don't think she'll have much of a problem with it. Any man can be a biological father, but a real father is the man who steps up and raises the child.

When you will be explaining where babies come from, that is the appropriate time to say that her stepfather is not her biological dad. She has 2 dads, one who could not stay and help her grow up and one who is taking good care of her.

shes too young to tell her anything, and you should tell those other people to shut up and mind their own business

She's too young to really understand right now. I would wait until she is 4 or 5.