If you love someone should it matter what race or color they are?

2015-11-08 1:04 pm
Im asking this question because i am a 19 year old black guy and i am dating my beautiful girlfriend who is white we have been together for 11 months now and next week will make a year we have been together. She makes me so happy she makes me laugh she makes me wanna become a better person everyday and i also just love her for who she is and her personality is also what really draws me to her, just know overall this i am head over heels for this girl. But the thing about it is my parents don't like her and my sister dont like her because she is white. They always say why couldn't you have a nice black girl it gets on my nerves that they still can not get over skin color and that it doesnt matter. How do i explain to my parents that i really really really love this girl from the bottom of my heart and that race doesnt matter

回答 (12)

2015-11-08 1:08 pm
To a degree yes it does.
If it matters to you based on level of attraction, culture, religion or anything else then it DOES matter no matter what politically correct people say.

I'm white and dated a hispanic guy. He was great but our culture was too vastly different and now I don't date outside of my own race. It's too much trouble for me and I'm not really attracted to many men of other races. He had very different expectations of women (second class) and our families classed in terms of religion and expectations. His were more lax and expected women to sit back and allow their husbands to do bad things and not say anything (cheat, sleep around, they were expected to have sex when the man told them, look after the home, etc) I would not tolerate this and my family would not either. Our religious backgrounds were also very different.

The majority of people don't date outside their race, if it doesn't bother you and you love her then definitely be with her and don't let what other people say put you off. This is your life and your choice and she has obviously made the same choice to date you as you have her. There is nothing wrong with being happy.
2015-11-08 1:13 pm
We live in the 21st century. Of course race shouldn't matter, the concept is just primitive.
2015-11-09 7:49 am
Not at all !!!!It doesn't matter !!!! Love is love !!!!!!
2015-11-09 2:44 am
Definitely not, and, even if you don't love someone, why would their race or color be relevant?
2015-11-08 1:52 pm
You do not have to explain to them how you are feeling. They are not in this relationship. This is about two people in love not four... There is a saying and it goes like this...We can not be one person to all...Above all your happiness in your choice. If they are so rude to not respect you and your feelings or you lovely ladies feelings they are the ones with a very big problem. You can not change them and at the end of the day they will be the ones to miss out due to not have made the effort to even get to know this girl...They are stuck in a hole and they are not aware of the unhappiness they are causing not just for you yet themselves...Nurture your relationship and protect it and protect your lovely lady. They are not considering ever you or you ladies feelings and this is showing they are seeing things one sided.They are being racist and In this day and age there is no need for it...No one has a right to say who we should or should not be with...You are the strong one here and go by what you believe in at all cost...
2015-11-08 1:49 pm
It should not matter. I guess it's natural to your parents to prefer someone of ur own color. But it's YOUR preference and not theirs. I do think they feel as if ur maybe rejecting ur background a little bit, but I don't feel that at all. I feel that u adore her and think the world of her and WANT her. Man how it feels to WANT someone, that feeling is inevitable. Have u ever tried telling them how much you LOOOVE her? Are they not trying to hear it. Well no matter what you love her, that's all that matters and u shouldn't succumb to others personal opinions in order to be happy. They"ll have to accept at some point which I'm sure they'll be more than willing to do. They are your parents so their love is unconditional. And as for your sister, tell her to lay off. It is not her business and tell her opinion is not needed. Has ur family ever made a conscious effort to get to know her? Maybe u guys should have dinner with your family. Does she know how to cook? They'll accept eventually.
2015-11-08 1:46 pm
If you truly love some one race, colour or gender does not matter.
2015-11-08 1:21 pm
no it doesn't matter
2015-11-08 1:17 pm
You really don't have to explain anything to anyone about your choice. Interracial dating is becoming the norm if it isn't the norm already. There are so many interracial relationships all over the world. Race is irrelevant when it comes to love and friendships because we are all human beings just different colors. No need to explain anything. You're not doing anything wrong by dating this girl. Just let your family know that you love them but you she is going to be your girlfriend.
2015-11-08 1:14 pm
no
2015-11-08 1:10 pm
Race should not matter............

The reality is somewhat different depending on your community.

If your parents really get to know your girlfriend they may forget she is white. My friends from different cultures often do this and they claim that I am like them.

Only time and hard workd will convince your parents of the seriousness of your relationship
2015-11-08 1:08 pm
Black Guy are awesome

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