I want to tell someone I was raped but I don't know who/how?

2015-10-26 8:11 pm
This happened just over a year ago but it's still something I struggle with on a daily basis. I still think about it all the time and I never get a full night's sleep because I still have nightmares etc. I have never told anybody about what happened to me, and I still struggle with feelings of guilt surrounding it. I can't help but thinking that maybe if I was able to tell somebody about it then it would take some of the weight off?
I'm not sure, it could be a stupid idea but I'd like to try. Only, I have nobody to tell. I'm 16, almost 17 and I can't let my parents find out because they would not be supportive (please don't say you're sure they would because you don't know the situation, they would not). I was thinking maybe a teacher but I don't know how to bring it up, and they would have to inform someone right? I just don't know what to do. Thoughts?

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2015-10-26 8:52 pm
✔ 最佳答案
I'm really sorry this happened to you, and remember you are not alone. What happened is not your fault. You should never feel guilty or blame yourself.
When you have something bothering you talking can really help. Don't keep your feelings bottled inside. Don't hesitate to ask for help. If you want to talk to a teacher or councilor ask to see them alone and let them know you're hurting and if you can talk.
You can also go online and talk on a support group for victims of rape and sexual assault. there you can talk to other people who have been through the same thing. It can be very healing to be among people who understand the feelings you are dealing with.
You can also see a therapist. You can go and see a GP who can then refer you to specialists who help people in your situation.

If you don't want to see someone in person, sometimes its easier talking to a stranger. Just having someone to talk to that isn't family or friends can be a tremendous help. There are a number of anonymous hotlines you can call.
You can call the National Domestic Violence Helpline on 0808 2000 247. The service is 24 hours and can give support, help and information over the telephone.
You can call ChildLine at any time on 0800 1111. Calls are free and confidential.You can contact ChildLine to talk about anything.
You can also call The Samaritans on 116 123. They are open 24 hours a day and calls are free and confidential as well. You can talk to them any time you like, in your own way, and off the record – about whatever’s getting to you.
I hope this helps.
2015-10-26 8:26 pm
Do you have a Guidance Counselor at your school? Maybe you can talk to her about it. I really think you should see a psychologist though, because if you have nightmares and you're (still) dealing with it, you can get real problems in the future (think of PTSD or other mental illnesses, that's how your mind reacts on traumas).
2015-10-26 8:15 pm
Tell your counselor at your school and ask her to contact the cops at your school then! don't feel scared or bad about yourself, you were harmed here. you are not the person in trouble here.
2015-10-26 9:35 pm
Im really to hear this happened to you. Usual it is good to tell the person that you trust and know they will be very supportive which in most case would be you parents, but from what you saying the best solution is to speak to some you know very well and trust. Like some mentioned a guidance councel might be the best choice.
You seem to also have you reasons to not report this to the cops ASAP when this happened, but it would have still been the right choice to do during that time.
Stay strong and i know i have no right to say this but try not to make it ruin the rest of your life. I understand those things can cause serious mental problem which you are currenlty experience but again be strong for you futur
2015-10-30 7:54 pm
Pray to God for help. I know people will get angry about this answer, but wait and see what he thinks you should do.
2015-10-29 12:50 pm
find someone you can trust it happened to a good friend of mine u need to say sumthing scu like that need shot u have done nothing wrong
2015-10-29 12:13 pm
tell a counselor
2015-10-29 9:12 am
If you want to tell someone, do it. If there is no one that you trust enough to confide in, then don't tell anyone. Your parents should be understanding and supportive. If they are not then they are worthless parents and do not deserve to have a child such as yourself. If you really were raped, you should have no guilt. You should only feel guilty if you did something wrong. Getting raped is not doing something wrong. If someone forces themselves onto you, you should be filled with anger and the desire to bring justice upon them. According to my somewhat abnormal beliefs , rape should be punished by death. I'm not suggesting you kill anyone, but you should tell the police and go to court against them and make sure they at least go to jail for this unforgivable crime. I don't know what happened, but if you did not give consent, then this person should pay for this. If you consented then you were not raped and should feel guilty for saying that you were. Good luck to you. :)
2015-10-29 2:21 am
you have already chosen best answer but I agree call a crisis hot line they will be able to help you to notify the proper people. Do it as soon as possible for there are time limits. will need counseling because you will be reliving the incidents while talking to authorities. You will need women that have been through this for support. Don't be afraid the first step is the hardest.
2015-10-27 3:16 pm
Where there is no guidance the people fall, But in abundance of counselors there is victory.
2015-10-26 8:27 pm
Just tell someone and get it off your chest. The longer you hang on to it, the more damage it can do to you in the long run.
2015-10-26 8:16 pm
if you are in the uk then perhaps one of these organisations could help

http://www.thesurvivorstrust.org/national-helplines/

alternatively you could go to your doctor and they could point you in the right direction

you could try your local citizen advice I am sure they would help point you in the right direction
2015-10-29 1:42 am
Wow you have bin through alot if you can't trust your parents talk to a therapist or teacher or principal or a complete stranger or tell a friend or just a pan do person I hope this helps you can also use the children's help phone I hope you can tell someone😙
2015-10-26 8:15 pm
You just told us. Go tell a friend or keep it in for the rest of your life.


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