How do I get my husband to except he s part in our DIVORCE. He had an affair with a 21 yr old 16 yrs ago. Now porn and other stuff on pc.?

That's "accept" (except means to exclude...such as "I like all candy, except licorice).

His affair 16 years ago is ancient history and if you two stayed together through that, then you accepted it and chose to stay. It shouldn't be part of your current divorce issues. Porn isn't a reason to divorce either, unless he'd rather view porn than be with you.

Divorce if you desire, but nothing in your post gives the reason for you wanting to divorce. He DOES need to accept you've chosen to end the marriage, and I'm sure he also plays a part in the reasons the marriage is ending, but nothing in your post is anything he should have to 'accept' as to why you've chosen to end the marriage. An affair you accepted years ago, and some dirty pictures on his computer, aren't really justification for divorce (so clearly you have other serious reasons, and you're free to share those with him or keep them to yourself).

You're still punishing him over something he did 16 year ago?! Carry a grudge much?!

Your reasoning is an affair 16 years ago and porn.

You stayed and porn is not an affair.

If that's all you got, YOU GOT NUTHIN.

Accept his part in the divorce. Let's explore that.

Divorce. It means done, final, over and out. All done.

Accept his part. This is something that you want him to do. Accept... If you get divorced, then you no longer get to tell him what to do.

Your question is flawed. Because when you say "accept his part", that is a continuation of the relationship (even if it's a bad outcome, it's still a continuation). Divorce is an ending of the relationship.

Do you want to continue, or do you want to end?