I have been with my boyfriend for 3.5 years, he is 7 years older, we have different racial backgrounds, and very different personalities. My family dislike him a lot.
I enjoy most of the time being with him, I can never feel more comfortable and loved when he is around. However, lately I feel like there are traits of his that I really dislike and understand that that's him and he will never change. I don't know if I should try to change my mindset on those, or I should break up with him because knowing that he will never change and so do I, I don't want to waste his time(he's in the suitable age of marriage).
Small things like, he is ultra picky on food, he never ever pick up the phone (I cannot imagine when I need him as emergency) ; he always says he will not drink when he goes out, then every time ended up drunk; he said he is trying hard to write certain exams to build his career but nothing succeed in these 3 years; he is not very considerate of my feelings and understand what I want.
I am confused. I love him a lot, defended him to whoever that told me to break up with him. I can show every single aspect of myself to him, he makes me feel very happy sometimes. At the same time, I understand that.. that's just the way he is, He will never answer my call when I need him, and when he hangs out with his friends he will never call me, and I will never believe what he promises because whenever he says.. it never turns out that way.
I am lost in love, should i break up with him?
2015-08-09 6:57 am
回答 (4)
2015-08-09 7:04 am
Its obvious you are staying in this relation ; just because you feel comfortable around this guy ;; but none of your desire neither your emotional needs are satisfied
so now ;; you decide
so now ;; you decide
2015-08-09 6:59 am
If you love him stay.
2016-04-23 11:21 pm
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Once you do that then you can start to worry about getting back together with your ex, other wise you will find that you are fighting about all the same things and getting no where. Do what it takes and I promise things will work out in your favor.
The funny thing is I came to the realization that I had to change a little too late. After I was kicked out and after I was about to lose the only things that truly mattered to me - her love. A funny thing happens when we truly love someone and lose them. We do what ever it takes to get them back. For me I had to drop bad habits that had caused not only our relationship to sour but practically every other relationship I had had in the past. Not only with women, but with friends, co-workers, family, you name it.
Which is why I say to you as my ex at the time said to me, the only thing you can do is change yourself. Work on yourself and improve on the person that you already are. Drop the negative things in your life that don't belong there and you will see all of your relationships start to take off to new heights.
Once you do that then you can start to worry about getting back together with your ex, other wise you will find that you are fighting about all the same things and getting no where. Do what it takes and I promise things will work out in your favor.
The funny thing is I came to the realization that I had to change a little too late. After I was kicked out and after I was about to lose the only things that truly mattered to me - her love. A funny thing happens when we truly love someone and lose them. We do what ever it takes to get them back. For me I had to drop bad habits that had caused not only our relationship to sour but practically every other relationship I had had in the past. Not only with women, but with friends, co-workers, family, you name it.
Which is why I say to you as my ex at the time said to me, the only thing you can do is change yourself. Work on yourself and improve on the person that you already are. Drop the negative things in your life that don't belong there and you will see all of your relationships start to take off to new heights.
2015-08-09 7:08 am
You need to follow your instincts and now that the crush thing has simmered down, you understand like you say the behaviors that do not suit you. That is growing up by the way! Give thanks to God for your brain.
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