Scared my mom is becoming an alcoholic?

I'm so sorry that you are going through this horrific situation, Megan. My heart goes out to you.

The first symptom of alcoholism is denial: “I only drink beer”, “I only drink on weekends”, “I can still handle my job”, “I never drink during the day. I only drink at night.” The excuses go on and on. Alcoholics restructure reality so that they believe they don’t have a problem. They believe everyone else around them has the problem.

It may help you to understand what your mom experiences. Her urge to drink is as strong as the urge that you and I feel when we have to go to the toilet badly. It is an overwhelming, persistent, and ceaseless urge.

Your mom will only seek help to control her drinking when SHE feels that things are so bad for HER that they can not possibly get worse. This is called hitting bottom. Your mother has to hit bottom and choose treatment. Nothing you do will expedite that decision. Trying to talk an alcoholic out of drinking will have the same level of success as trying to talk a cancer patient out of her cancer. Alcoholism is as much of a disease as cancer.

At this point, you need to take care of yourself. Join AL-ANON or Ala-teen. There are meetings all over the world. You will meet people who have been where you are now. They can provide both emotional support to you and tell you how they coped with the situation you're now in.

Her reaction of screaming at you sounds really defensive as if shes in denial of her drinking problem, I personally have a family member with a drinking problem and overcoming an addiction is something she will have to do on her own but first you need to get her to realize she has a problem. Maybe telling your grandparents? They could help you talk to her about it

wow, your mom is a bit childish lol At your age now, you can't really do anything even if you tell her to stop what she's doing since she's just thinking that you are still a kid that doesn't know anything. You need to go to ask help from the people who are bigger than you. You should tell your brother and grandparents about this. Let them know what happen to your mom. This is important! if you want to save your mother.

I'm sorry that your mother's drinking has become a problem, I know how you feel. Your parents should be role models, they should make you feel safe and protected. A parent who is drinking themselves senseless all the time is a huge disappointment. What I recommend is for you to write her a letter, if she won't listen to you. Tell her that her drinking concerns you. Tell her that you love her, that you look up to her, but you don't like the behavior you see. Ask her to stop drinking completely, that it's important to you and therefore needs to be important to her. Tell her if she won't change, then your relationship with her will be compromised because you don't want to interact with her when she's like that. Speak to your grandparents about helping with this. Maybe if she refuses to change, you can stay with them temporarily until your mother finds her feet again. You don't need to be around her as she goes down the drain.

maybe you shouldve stayed at your grandparents instead of coming back home