My boyfriend and I have been together for 3.5 years. I love him. I want to spend the rest of my life with him. But for more than a year now he hasn't been himself. He's severely depressed and angry at the world. He's hardly my guy anymore.
He knows he needs help. But he's in the army. He's been a reservist for 2 years now. His family is all military. It's his dream. Something he would never willingly give up. Is there any way for him to get professional help and not end up with a medical discharge? He's willing to live with the depression if getting help would end his military career. Military comes first. Regardless of his health. But I can't handle it much longer. He's never happy anymore. He's always so angry or hurt.
I won't give him the ultimatum of getting help or losing me if him getting help means losing his dream...the army. Even if he got help, he would never forgive me. Please, if anyone has advice on how to get him help, I'd greatly appreciate it. He's battled depression all his life and never gotten help. This isn't going to go away on its own. Is there any way for him to get help and not lose the military?
Depression in the military.?
2015-07-22 8:07 am
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2015-07-22 9:33 am
Listen..............you have one life..............and it's too short to waste on bitter, angry, depressed people, who just drain you of all the GOOD you have..........and leave you exhausted and spent.
You will waste your life, trying to deal with *His* depression and wild mood swings.
Honey...........there are so many nice, caring , wonderful dudes out there, who would cherish a babe like you, and it's wonderful that you want to help...........it shows what a caring person you are..........
but it's like tossing every last dollar you have into a sinkhole.......and watching them disappear..........with no results. It does YOUUUUUUUU no good.
You have to live your life, and you deserve to be happy.................not shackled to some manic depressive moody, surly mope, who's just a constant drain on you and all your resources.
You have to learn to let go sometimes.............self preservation........and not let people like that drag you into their quicksand pit.
Be happy..............enjoy life. Laugh more. And let Mr. Darkness wrestle with his own demons.
Trust me.......I know people like this.........there is NO making them happy. They just want to drag you down with them
Get away. Get away NOW.
You will waste your life, trying to deal with *His* depression and wild mood swings.
Honey...........there are so many nice, caring , wonderful dudes out there, who would cherish a babe like you, and it's wonderful that you want to help...........it shows what a caring person you are..........
but it's like tossing every last dollar you have into a sinkhole.......and watching them disappear..........with no results. It does YOUUUUUUUU no good.
You have to live your life, and you deserve to be happy.................not shackled to some manic depressive moody, surly mope, who's just a constant drain on you and all your resources.
You have to learn to let go sometimes.............self preservation........and not let people like that drag you into their quicksand pit.
Be happy..............enjoy life. Laugh more. And let Mr. Darkness wrestle with his own demons.
Trust me.......I know people like this.........there is NO making them happy. They just want to drag you down with them
Get away. Get away NOW.
2016-02-27 4:26 pm
There are many underlying issues that trigger depression, everyone is depressed at some point a and can get over it, but others have a harder time, I work in psych for over 16 years, and see the same people, medication does work for some while it does not for others, we offer ECT which is helpful but takes many weeks, in that case you may need more of a holistic approach, find out what you are deficient in sometimes its a simple mineral or vitamin. You have to know your body mind and spirit. From what I hear military life is not an easy one, but you have to find a way to cope don't give up, that is too easy hang in there, do a little research find out more about how the mind works, I can asure you its quite complicated. But you need to get help before its to late May God bless you will be praying for you.
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