Double standards or am I wrong?

Where do I start? In my opinion, my significant other treats me like I do not contribute or my job is irrelevant because it is not physical labor. They say they don't but action say otherwise. Often, I think about changing my name to Florence (maid). It seem like it is expectation since I have a home office too.

When he/she gets upset, they must be right and it is expected to give them space. No conversation about it because I am instigating an argument. Let me have a frown on my face, you would think i started World War III. My significant other holds onto EVERYTHING even though I am ready to resolve it and move on. It gets to a point where I rather struggle than to ask them for anything. Otherwise, I will have to listen their soliloquy about how I am disturbing them or bad timing.

The relationship has taken a downward spiral over the last few years. I do not feel value anymore and do not know how much crap i can take. I know this is only one side of the story but is it me?