Husband ignores me when he's angry.?
2015-04-02 4:50 pm
Yesterday my husband decided to clean the apartment. We live in a small apartment. There was stuff everywhere. I came home from break helped cleaned a little & left for work again. Came home the place is still a mess. My husband & I had talk about money when he gets paid he's likes to spend I'm not a big spender. We have very little income & lots of bills. I'm a diabetic & we have run out of groceries before all just he likes to spend. I need to eat so I don't go into a diabetic coma. I came he's ordering a new phone. He just ordered one 2 weeks ago. I told him he's needs to discuss large purchases with me & we need to agree. He's gets mad stops talking to me while cleaning. Then turns up his music, play a game, look at his phone & everything, but listen. He will even walk out the room. It's hurts my feelings & if start crying he's yells at me. I try to talk things out then it's gets worse. He's got anger issues. I never lived with him before marriage I guess I was just to blind by love. When first got married he broke the closet door & had broken glasses everywhere because he got upset. Yesterday he almost slammed my hand in the door & hit my hand when I grabbed his phone. He has slammed my hand in the door before. He didn't apology until I kept bugging him he also slams and throws things. I this morning for work I got a small hug. Yes I did nag him a little & do whenever we argue. I am in the wrong? We only been married 5 months had a lovely wedding.
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2015-04-02 4:56 pm
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Lovely wedding a marriage makes not.This guy has issues--and since you are the one working--you should have a separate bank account from his--since your health is your greatest asset.
Abuse should never be tolerated and he needs to stop or get reported.
This abuse and violation--should only go as far as you are willing to allow it.
Not having lived together before marriage--is no excuse for his treatment of you.
Abuses and Abusers--hardly ever get better--you need to find a way--to keep your money separate and get your medication way ahead of his purchases irrelevant to health.
Arguing and talking with him--will not solve this--the issues here are very serious--and needs to be dealt with--a third party--relative, police or separation--
Abuse should never be tolerated by anyone.
2015-04-02 4:56 pm
The key with the money issue is to discuss money beforehand and agree on a budget. There is an excellent new budgeting website that is free to use: www.everydollar.com. Once you and your husband start discussing and agreeing on how to spend your income before it even comes in, these money disagreements will go WAY down.
2015-04-02 4:52 pm
He is not a good man leave before it's too late
2015-04-02 5:13 pm
What does having a lovely wedding have to do with anything? Your wedding is one day of your life and, for the most part, they're all lovely. If weddings were a barometer for healthy, happy marriages, there would be virtually no divorces!
On your wedding day, you married a violent, selfish, emotionally stunted man who neither respects you as his partner nor treats you as a human being. You can chalk it up to not living with him first but, the truth is, you'd be in very nearly the same place you're in now whether you'd married this guy or not. You'd still be isolated. You'd still be walking on eggshells. You'd still be afraid of your partner.
It's not going to get better unless or until you leave in a permanent way. Violent people are violent. Period. That violence will only continue to escalate. Remove yourself from the situation and do not return. Stay with your parents or a friend if necessary, and file for divorce. Not all marriages work out. Better divorced than battered or dead.
On your wedding day, you married a violent, selfish, emotionally stunted man who neither respects you as his partner nor treats you as a human being. You can chalk it up to not living with him first but, the truth is, you'd be in very nearly the same place you're in now whether you'd married this guy or not. You'd still be isolated. You'd still be walking on eggshells. You'd still be afraid of your partner.
It's not going to get better unless or until you leave in a permanent way. Violent people are violent. Period. That violence will only continue to escalate. Remove yourself from the situation and do not return. Stay with your parents or a friend if necessary, and file for divorce. Not all marriages work out. Better divorced than battered or dead.
2015-04-02 4:59 pm
Not all marriages work out even if the couple live together first.
You need to understand why your Husband gets angry, basically what triggers it. If it is something you say or do, he needs to tell you, before it destroys the marriage A course in anger management might help !
This is not something you can ignore, although it may not be related to your marraige, but work pressures etc.
You need to understand why your Husband gets angry, basically what triggers it. If it is something you say or do, he needs to tell you, before it destroys the marriage A course in anger management might help !
This is not something you can ignore, although it may not be related to your marraige, but work pressures etc.
2015-04-02 5:06 pm
Get separate bank accounts. That's the first thing. You, as you say, have to know that your savings aren't wasted on his frivolous purchases, and there's food in the house.
Having had a lovely wedding wasn't enough to make a lovely marriage. I suggest you reconsider this marriage of yours. Your husband clearly isn't interested in talking things through and he's violent towards you. Slamming your hand in the door is shocking stuff. Don't put up with it. Please leave him and find somewhere else to live. Your safety is paramount. Get out.
Having had a lovely wedding wasn't enough to make a lovely marriage. I suggest you reconsider this marriage of yours. Your husband clearly isn't interested in talking things through and he's violent towards you. Slamming your hand in the door is shocking stuff. Don't put up with it. Please leave him and find somewhere else to live. Your safety is paramount. Get out.
2015-04-02 10:14 pm
He has been violent by throwing things, and this early in the marriage, too, it's a big warning sign. Read and do some research on domestic violence, escalation, warning signs. You can go to counseling, but if it gets physical, there is likely no going back. Could you live with that?
2015-04-02 6:48 pm
Sounds to me like he still thinks he has his own money after marriage he is wrong. Tell him in marriage you pool your money together most couples have joint accounts any large purchases like cellphones or something that is not needed need to be discussed this is normal relationship behavior. Anything over say 100.00 dollars should be talked about especially if you have a medical condition. Your husband was not ready for the sacrifices and compromises that come with marriage. He gives you the silent treatment you give him the sex strike.
參考: Married over 15yrs and counting. The whole mine attitude in marriage is void even with big things like vehicles most couples share a vehicle and of course you share a home right.
You need to put your foot down this guy is acting like a spoiled brat and a selfish jerk. Express to him that he starts changing his behavior and works on his communication skills with you or go to counseling your asking for an annulment cause you deserve to be treated better than this.
2015-04-02 5:35 pm
I cannot imagine what makes you think this marriage is worth saving. He disrespects you, is immature, a spendthrift. I suspect you have your own set of problems and thus the two of you together are quite TOXIC. I have to wonder HOW WELL and HOW LONG you knew him prior to the marriage, because something here is VERY wrong and I'm guessing? It is the two of you TOGETHER.
Grace
Grace
2015-04-02 4:56 pm
Get out of there while you still can. He needs to know he can't treat you like that.
2015-04-02 4:55 pm
You are 25 and 24 but looking at ur other questions, doesn't sound like marriage was a good idea. Fighting from 3 wks in. Not a good fit for each other.
Try to work out a budget and stick to it. He isn't good with money and that will be hard to change.
Try to work out a budget and stick to it. He isn't good with money and that will be hard to change.
2015-04-03 5:51 am
That is awful.He beats you for nothing.Honestly if I were you,I would leave him.He beats you,yells at you for no reason,and makes you feel bad.Not even an apology.You should leave him as quickly as you can.
2015-04-03 5:23 am
Yesss
2015-04-02 5:54 pm
go find another man who is worthy of your hardships. my God! do not be a martyr.
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