How to develop feelings as an INTJ type?

INTJs are known to be rather pragmatic more than sentimental.
I'm definitely one of those but I am curious about whether any INTJs will exert their feelings to outsiders such as sympathy, because I find out that whenever someone cries, I want to hide.
There was this one time my friend was crying when the others were comforting her, I was the only one who looked unmoved and felt uncomfortable actually. Of couse my friends were busying comforting so they didn't notice. I wanted to offer solutions at once but considering the fact that she needed emotional support more than the practical ones, I shut up for most of the time but at last reluctantly and awkwardly comforted her, at which I was apparently poor. I think that crying is a waste of time and prefer seeking solutions immediately.
In fact, I don't feel the need for emotional support. That's okay to me. Sometimes I feel devastated when someone keeps giving me emotional support because I clearly know where I'm at and my goals, so it's like people are telling me that I'm weak. (I know this may have gone off too far and I am trying to avoid this weird thought xd)
I know I may seem a bit harsh, but really, I'm not bothered by most opinions about my character because most of them are very subjective and pointless. I don't know if this would make me arrogant but I only listen to those who has a point - and this constitutes a few, so I guess only the minority could understand me.
Anyone agrees with me?