I yelled at my wife in public.?

she needs to grow up and get over it if she wants the marriage to work* COMMUNICATION Trust Honesty & Respect are the keys to a long healthy relationship without those you have nothing* and U can't always Give in to her to appease her* giving her whatever she wants to make her happy* She is in the wrong by going behind your back and ordering things without u 2 talking bout it..u shouldn't have yelled at her like a 2 yr old infront of all those ppl either* U both need to sit down and talk things out....the silent treatment can only last so long and a week is long enough for it being over this*.

Building a home is VERY challenging to any marriage. You apologize, by apologizing. Make it sincere. Promise her you two will work together in the future, to make decisions for the home, and nothing will be done that you two don't agree on (it will require compromise on one or both your parts).

Yelling at someone isn't appropriate. Buying something that you didn't agree to for the home wasn't appropriate on her part either. You both were in the wrong. Maybe a couples counselor will help you two learn how better to handle disagreements. The silent treatment is a form of abuse, and not an appropriate way for her to react.

It's funny how straight people having arguments and then keep silent for a while, I never understood this lack of communication...
Anyway, what she did was wrong. She shouldn't have do it behind your back, that's not what a relationship is all about. You yelled at her because you're a human being. You got hurt and therefore you responded.
It seems like what is bothering you is that it was in public and the humiliation she must have felt. If nobody would be there, would you still apologize for yelling?
I think she is the one who should apologize of here behavior. The way she acted is not better that screaming at someone in public.
However, people are a little bit sensitive about that issue and they try to be polite and mast themselves as much as they can when around other people.
Bottom line, my advice is - she should acknowledge first her behavior and then, after she is sorry for what she did, then it leaves you the room to apologize to her.

Some really stupid 1950s style comments here, I'm a woman and married for 7 years and me and my hubby are 50/50 it's 2014 people a woman who thinks she has control of the house is kidding her self or extremely selfish, I'm siding with the guy here because she went behind his back and went ahead and ordered them with out at least getting his opinion then he tells her off and she goes off in a strop and doesn't speak to him in a week...pathetic!! if I had done that my hubby he would of told me to grow up and visavera

Truth is if she had done this now then I fear your input on such things down the line is worthless to her and she has her own agenda regardless of how you feel and if she doent get her own way then sparks fly and that's not healthy, marriage is about sharing it's important to have both sides and come to an agreement

This problem wouldn't have arisen if you got the Architect who planned the house to advice on these matters. At that point you both would have discussed with him and arrived at a compromised solution with regard to the matters that you two are arguing now. Since that stage has passed now let your wife to implement her ideas with regard to tiles etc. After all it is going to be the property of both. As such talk to her and applogise for the horrible incident and proceed peacefully .Her happiness is your happines as well .

Husband and wife are supposed to choose and decide with EACH OTHER, but that isn't always easy... Compromise. Perhaps you should pick an equally divided amount of rooms in the house to decorate and she gets to as well.

As for apologizing, she seems really stubborn...You gave it some time already (A week), so maybe this is the right time to apologize. Say something along the lines of, "These tiles don't look so bad...actually, they look pretty nice." Then you could tell her about the compromise.

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I yelled at my wife in public.?
We got married this Jan. We are getting our new house built and hence we argue daily on several aspects like the colour of the wall, tiles etc. Now my wife wanted a certain kind of floor tiles and i wanted a totally different one. We had argued several times over it and i was terribly upset about...

Husband and wife are supposed to choose and decide with EACH OTHER, but that isn't always easy... Compromise. Perhaps you should pick an equally divided amount of rooms in the house to decorate and she gets to as well.

As for apologizing, she seems really stubborn...You gave it some time already (A week), so maybe this is the right time to apologize. Say something along the lines of, "These tiles don't look so bad...actually, they look pretty nice." Then you could tell her about the compromise.

We built a house in 2010. We didn't argue once... Yes, it's stressful to have to navigate all of the decisions that need to be made when building, but if you can't come to an agreement on something as simple as floor tiles, there are more serious issues in your marriage than differences in sense of style.