從小學到中學階段；他的行為都沒有太嚴重的過失，依老師所講就是很多說話又坐吾定個種、讀書成績一般。約四，五年前，他17，18歲左右，我發覺他好容易喊，同埋容易激動；我就理所當然的認為係兒子的青少年期反應了。
他在18歲那年(4年前)往美國升讀2年制的院校，按計劃之後便可轉升當地4年制大學餘下的兩年便可畢業。前年他告知我們有大學收；但那大學不太理想、他希望多讀一年以便轉升較理想的大學，我們便同意了。
現在回想起來；自從他往美國升學後、佢好少主動打電話俾我地即使我們的生日、漸漸連我打電話俾佢都吾聽(一個月打兩，三次)，令我十分擔心，要搵當地的表姐幫忙佢先肯聽我電話。
去年初有成3，4個月都搵吾到佢，我好憂慮擔心得好緊要，個次佢自動打電話俾我，情緒吾好，話學校吾俾佢transfer；原因係佢未準備好，我多番查問之後，佢話我知佢大半年前，學校要佢睇學校醫生；醫生話佢有情緒病要食藥；佢話因為食左藥之後，個人就好疲倦成日要睡覺，所以缺席好多課堂。我問佢係吾係讀得好辛苦？你自己想吾想繼續讀落去？佢話想繼續讀落去，佢話因為如果佢係無能力讀落去，學校已經踼走佢，吾俾佢繼續讀啦。我要佢暑期返香港見心理醫生，佢話吾使哪；因為佢已經減少食藥。
今年暑假佢返來，我地在他回去開學前開家庭會議，議定好如果明年仍未能升讀大學就要返香港。
他在8月尾回去開學後，我打電話俾佢都仍然係吾聽我電話，搵吾到佢。上個月有一日，佢突然有個短訊sent俾我，係相片；全身裸體的背後，彎曲只映股部；另一張相個人好似迷迷糊糊咁；我收到後好吾開心；我吾知佢係吾係同我開玩笑，我即時回覆但到今天仍然未能聯絡佢。
我的問題係；我想寫信俾佢；話佢知我的擔憂，但又吾知道應該點樣表達？或者請問你有何見議給我？
一個煩惱的媽媽
我的21歲獨生子有情緒病並且拒絕和我溝通
2014-10-23 6:29 am
回答 (4)
2014-10-26 5:10 am
✔ 最佳答案
我以前有些獨生子同學, 也有和妳兒子差不多的問題, 成因通常是自小: 零用錢太多, 愛護太多, 縱容太多, 或是差不多的因素啦, 妳可以嘗試親自去一次親身觀察, 但妳似乎怕會得罪他, 看情形, 妳去不去, 或說不說, 都差不多, 妳兒子似乎是無有怕的, 反而是妳怕會得罪他, 如果妳兒子是讀書不成也有家庭支持, 就隨他吧, 反正妳怕他對妳反感.
2014-10-26 10:47 pm
你問下社工啦!very good
2014-10-25 3:05 am
Sorry about what had happened.
My only suggestion is, if you can, try to understand your son's life before doing anything (by flying to the U.S. and observe).
It is a known secret that parents pretend to understand their children. But they don't in fact. In this case, you should look at the issue on his side. At the least - you should not apply your value system to his.
If you think your son does not understand your concern, there will be incorrect - he does understand. However, in many instances, assistance from peers, like friends, may work better.
So what you should really do is:
a. See if you can get your son's medical record in detail to understand what problems is he facing;
b. Observe and try to understand his difficulty.
It is not easy to leave a home. just remember that.
My only suggestion is, if you can, try to understand your son's life before doing anything (by flying to the U.S. and observe).
It is a known secret that parents pretend to understand their children. But they don't in fact. In this case, you should look at the issue on his side. At the least - you should not apply your value system to his.
If you think your son does not understand your concern, there will be incorrect - he does understand. However, in many instances, assistance from peers, like friends, may work better.
So what you should really do is:
a. See if you can get your son's medical record in detail to understand what problems is he facing;
b. Observe and try to understand his difficulty.
It is not easy to leave a home. just remember that.
2014-10-24 12:08 am
HELLO!
我覺得你應該親身去當地探他, 他也許好須要你親自表達你的一切感情.. 當然, 有時候, 文字可能太簡略!
ANYWAY, I AM NOT A MOTHER ONLY HERE TO GIVE SOME SUGGESTION ONLY..............................THANKS!
我覺得你應該親身去當地探他, 他也許好須要你親自表達你的一切感情.. 當然, 有時候, 文字可能太簡略!
ANYWAY, I AM NOT A MOTHER ONLY HERE TO GIVE SOME SUGGESTION ONLY..............................THANKS!
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