If you were a parent(if you're not already a parent), would you rather spoil your kids or abuse them?

Spoil. They'll turn out to be sheltered brats, but at least they'll be happy and Undamaged. I grew up in an abusive household and I would never wish that upon anyone. I know plenty of people who were spoiled; and yes, they're selfish, but they're happy and successful. Us abused people struggle and tend to not reach our full potential due to mental illness.

Neither. But spoiling them is far better than abusing them
Sure they'll be selfish brats, but better that than harmed

neither, but of course never abuse them

"rather"? I would rather do neither
since I would very much like them
to grow up as well balanced people.

Neither. They are both abuse.

You know how the saying goes: Women are formed to be loved, and not understood.

omg this question is hilarious.