✔ 最佳答案
1. It is based on the circumstance. However, the court tends to award custody to the mothers unless the mother is deeded to be incompetent.
2. Since the household expense (for maintenance calculation) is paid by a third-party (In a divorce proceeding, only your husband and you are the parties of the case. The rest are considered third-parties), it is impossible for a court to order that third-party to pay unless there is any evidence that the income/assets are commingling with the third-party (for example, the husband works for his mother and instead of paying salary, a stipend or living allowance is given).
In this case, it will be difficult to say.