Why do people pity us single folks?

If you are happy with being single, then why do you care what other people think? When and if you ever get ready to settle down with someone or date again, you will know in your own time.

Take it from a 43 year old man who is still single and never married. I am open to the idea of finding a good woman to date and maybe settle down with. That being said. I don't need a woman. Especially if she is the wrong woman and is not compatible with me personally. A wise man once said that it is better to be alone and miserable than to be with the Mr. or Ms. Wrong and be doubly miserable.

Unlike you, I don't take a totally dim view of dating and the opposite sex. This is coming from a guy who has had more than his fair share of bad relationships. That includes having a fiance cheat on me and a former girlfriend kill herself in a manic episode. If I personally allowed myself to have a dim view on relationships and dating, it wouldn't be fair to the next woman I date and it would potentially scare someone who would be Ms. Right away.

When I go out and date women these days, I don't put too much pressure on myself or expect too much out of my date. If I don't expect a whole lot, she can't possibly disappoint me. She can only pleasantly surprise me. If the dates don't go well or a relationship doesn't work out, I just chalk it up as it wasn't meant to be. At least it gets me out of the house for a few hours. In short, I am happy to date around. If I have to go through 1000 bad dates to find Ms. Right, then so be it.

The great thing about being single and 43 is that I know better who I am as a man and what I want in a keeper. She has to do a whole lot more for me than to just look good or be a freak in the bedroom. She has to be good to be with. We have to be compatible with each other on a personal level and it has to work for the both of us in order for the relationship to work or for me to want to keep her for life.

I think its because they are insecure in themselves as it draws attention to them that life can easily change at a drop of a hat and have their relationship taken away from them and end up in a similar situation and the pity is their way of dealing with those fears as nothing in life is guaranteed to anyone and things you have can easily get taken away at the drop of a hat as with couples most of the time one goes before the other so the pity is their own fears and insecurities about how will they cope if they are in your situation if that helps explain things. Good luck.