We have been dating for 4 weeks and two days! He wanted to do sexual things to me! He also promised we won't have sex! Is it ok for us to be sexual or are we going to fast?
It depends if you are comfortable with it! Since you are asking us about it though, probably means you aren't ready. So tell him that you want to take things slow.
Is your goal to be known as a slut or a tramp or an easy lay? If so, then heck no, you're not going too fast. 4 weeks and 2 days (4 x 7 = 28 +2 = 30) So at day 30 of this brand new relationship you're asking if it's okay to do sexual things? That means either his penis, his tongue, or his fingers are going into one of 3 holes in your body and/or your mouth is going on his penis. Okay if you're not having sex, then his penis won't go into one or two of the holes but let me tell you once it gets started those areas will not be forgotten.
Nice to know that a guy who should be still trying to find out if you like onions on your hamburger is wanting to do these things and even brought it up. That doesn't show any respect for you and it doesn't mean he loves you. He just wants to get laid.
Are you on birth control? If not, then you shouldn't be thinking about any of this because one thing leads to another and you'll be his baby mama by March or April.
No woman gives control of her body or her future to a man. She maintains control of that herself and she does not make him responsible for her. He should wear a condom because it prevents STDs but YOU should be accountable for your own body and the next 18 years of your life if you don't want to be raising a kid. You go to your gynecologist or to Planned Parenthood and you get on one of the 15 or so methods of birth control and if you want to do adult things you have adult responsibility.
as a christian, i think you shouldn't do it before you are married...
as a normal teenager, i think it is too fast....you have dated for only 1 month!
if he wants to break up with you just only because you dont want to do, it means he doesnt love you
Wait until the three month mark at least (even that is very early) because then you will know if he can truly love you and equally important respect you. Don't do anything that you will regret. I lost my virginity as a senior in high school because I was pressured by my gf and I have regretted it ever since. It did not help our relationship because we were not ready for a encounter like that so early. Sex is a gift, including sexual acts and should be saved for long term relationships and or marriage. Think how will this affect our relationship my self image and what would my parents and friends say and think if they found out. Sex is wonderful when you are both mature and ready enough for it- do not underestimate how it will affect your relationship.
In my opinion I think you guys are going to fast!! But then again idk it's what ever u think it's right. If u wanna have sex go head just be safe about But keep in mind your giving it to him already so he could just hit it and quit it .. keep him waiting wanting you. Lol xD idk good luck