friends are so hard to handle, what should i do?

2014-01-01 1:32 am
this problem might sound really silly and childish. But it has been bothering me for a while and I still couldn't find a solution. So I would like to ask for some help.
So my friends A and B are very closed. And my friend C and I are very closed.
Not long ago, A told me that B said she hates C and at that moment I feel like I should stand up for C, so I said well, I don't think C likes B anyway. And A agreeded with me.
But then the next day, A told B that C hates her.
And B talked to me about it. She said that she couldn't believe that C hates her and that she's going to hate C now because she doesn't like people who hate her.
So I told her that C only said it because A said you hate her.
B denies and said she doesn't hate C until she heard that C hates her.
But the problem here is that, i don't know who lied.
I swear that A said to me that B hates C, and that why i said C doesn't like B either.
But according to B, A told her that C hates her that's why she's going to hate C too.
If i ask why did A lied and said different thing between different people, A will probably say that i made everything up and she didn't say anything like that. And B will definitely believe A because they are best friends.
I'm very confused and frustrated. I do not know what to do at all and I'm stressing out.
Please help me.

回答 (5)

2014-01-01 2:52 am
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It sounds like you're having a hard time right now. The social scene can suck sometimes.
My best advice is to be sincere, honest.

Can you find a way to do a 'meeting' with each other? No teachers involved, no parents involved, if you could just get yourself, A, B, and C together, that would probably be the best way to clear everything up. I understand it's probably sour and very awkward, but it's probably the only way everyone will be able to tell the truth.

If you're able to get the group together, start off by saying you care for C very much. Then tell them about the other day, when A told you B hates C. Be very specific about when you guys talked, so it sounds like the complete truth. Maybe you guys were chatting online, or in the hallway at school.
Mention that it came up that somehow B hates C. Out loud, consider maybe you heard A wrong, and if you didn't, A should tell the truth and you don't know why she's lying.
I trust that A told you that B hates C, but being very bold about your argument can put up red flags for people.
Look at A in the eyes when you're talking about this. Sometimes a sincere tone and pleading look of the eyes can tear someone up with guilt. If she still denies, just keep going.
Tell everyone that in a quick defense, you told A that C also hates B. Remind them that you care a lot about C so it was just pure instinct to cover C's butt.

There might be a bit of talk that arouses at this point. Just quiet everyone down. Apologize to everyone for saying C hates B, and if A still hasn't fessed up, just be cool about it and tell her something like; 'Look, I don't know why you're sitting here and denying what you said, but I swear that's what I heard you say about B and C.'

In a perfect scenario, everything would just sort of flow from there. Hopefully they would move on. Make sure that B and C clear things up and move on.

I know that this is not a perfect world though. Someone might decline to come to the 'meeting' or there may not be a time or place available to sit down and chat privately for 15 minutes. So, in this case, I would say the first step is to tell C that you were only trying to cover her butt but messed up in doing so. If you guys are truly friends, C shouldn't be mad at you.

Next, ask C if she would be willing to talk to B with you and to tell B that she doesn't actually hate her. You may want to talk to B first, in private, and tell B that what you said was a lie. It's going to make you look like a bad guy, but what is more valuable, friendship or proving people wrong?

Anyways, my point is be honest. If A isn't honest, shame on her. But if you really care about fixing what's happened, be the bigger person in the situation and take the blame. Friendship matters a whole lot more. Be humble. If you're kind about it, there's no good way that they could 'spread rumors' about you or anything like that.

Good luck!
2014-01-01 12:48 pm
I think the best thing to do is tell the truth. Tell them that you were only trying to stand up for C after what A said. You should also have a talk with A and tell her to clear up things with B so that B doesn't think C hates her. This kind of thing sucks I know. Just have a proper conversation with all of them. You should get C to tell B that she doesn't hate her.
2014-01-01 9:43 am
WTF?
Those are some twisted friends. Just step back. Trust me, it will help.

Good luck.
2014-01-01 9:43 am
silly drama
2014-01-01 9:36 am
If you can you could try and make them become friends or you could try and keep them away from each other its you call

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