when you plan a wedding, who is it mainly for?

wow if he is that controlling already i would get the &^%$ out of there before it's too late.

He needs to stay out of it, it's a woman's day not a man's. And if he's not paying for it then what the hell, he truly shouldn't have any input AT ALL.

I would never marry someone as stubborn and annoying like that. If he's like that now, imagine after ten years of marriage with him.

There may be more going on than a simple dislike of the colors and the room. He may be getting cold feet.

It's fine for him to have a say in things; usually they don't have an opinion at all.

But you're the one paying for it, so do what you like. Have pink if you want pink - or maybe pink and blue. But I think pink and white would be lovely, and if you like it, then spend your money on it. Don't just make him happy. He's not the princess, YOU are! :)

It's mainly for the bride and groom. It's their wedding, so what they prefer as a couple goes.

If the groom cares about what he wears and how he dresses but the bride doesn't take this into account, the couple need to sort out what ELSE they ignore about eachother before they get married!

A wedding being "mainly for women" makes no sense, since it's about too people getting married. If marriage isn't meant to be an equal partnership, then what's the point?

I totally agree with Sarah's answer. Its both their days to make both happy. If they can't compromise and agree with simple thing like designing the colors of their wedding room, how could they compromise and agree with their relationship and life together. Its really a bad beginning in my opinion, like you wrote, he wasn't the one paying for it and that statement will continue to be his reminder and the straw that breaks the camel's back. Your mom and dad should stay out of it. The whole planning, cost etc should be you and your husband to be. There is no such thing that its a woman's wedding unless your significant other is also a woman, still the whole planning will be you two not one or the other but both. Its a wedding, a marriage not a death or a funeral. If you can't decide, forget about all the colors of the room, just go for a wedding cruise/ vacation and be happy about it *

Mainly it's for your guests.

Trying to force your future husband to drape himself in pink is a BAD start to a marriage. It's time you figured out that the two of you need to COMPROMISE, and come to MUTUALLY AGREEABLE decisions.

"All he had to do was" -- he ALSO needs to take the vows. If you run roughshod over him, he might not show up at all. If he sees a future of being bullied by you, because you're the one with the money, he may well flee, and I wouldn't blame him.

Take over? Uh, YOU are the one insisting things be YOUR way. How is that HIM taking over?

You are not mature enough to be married. And you clearly don't love him at all, or you wouldn't write as though he didn't matter at all to you.

Don't marry. Wait until you mature to adult-hood.

And that idea that weddings are ALL and ONLY about the bride is an ugly myth. That's only the case if you are marrying yourself, in a room alone.

Omg that other persons answer was god awful. It's a woman's AND man's day. They BOTH get a say. You both should be willing to compromise on what each other wants. So what was the exact reason he didn't like it? A man doesn't just take over everything, usually yes men leave the planning up to the women but they do have every right to have an opinion on their day. I'm going to remain unbiased on your situation here considering I don't know why he didn't like the second room.