Thank you very much at all of you for answering to this question. Jesire, I see you often answer also if you are in the opposite of my state of mind. But I' m very happy you do it. My thinking is this. Made an exception for the mother' s love that is unconditioned (like Fromm says if I don' t mistake in his fabulous 'Art of loving') I do really believe that we can love others no more no less of how much we love ourselves. Think about at if you agree with me and tell me. Always if you want, always if you want. Thanks.
I' m closing this answer and at last I want to say that for love others we must love ourselves, there is not another chance in loving. From this point of view the best answer should be the Shih Tsu' s one but I believe that he doen' t get angry with me if for this time I give the best answer to another answer. You are to philosopher to don' t understand my intent. O. K. Shaw must go on. Come on, come back at work. Our favourite work. Answering in philosophy.