My bf & I have been together 9 years. We would have gotten married years ago but my doc & other at my support group said i should legally stay single for financial reasons. ( i have serious heart/lung disease & medications, doc visits, health care is costly) i can get financial assistance single & when i die wont leave bf in debt. Our pastor said he would perform ceremony for us & just not have it recorded. We would be "married" but only in eyes of God, not the state.
Do you think its silly, doing it after so many years together?